Relationships are all around us, from our family members to fellow colleagues to customers and to our friends. There are three easy things you can do today to instantly change the relationships in your life.

When was the last time you really felt you were heard? Many of us do not know how to really listen, to really hear what the other is saying. We are so busy with the chatter in our own heads, preparing what we are going to say at the first opportunity, that we do not hear what is being said. Therefore, the focus is on us and not on the one who is speaking. Take the time to lean in and hear every word that is being said. Let it sink in. You may be very surprised by what you hear.

Asking good question lets the speaker know you are engaged and interested. What do you ask? Be curious about what they are saying and telling you about. Make no assumption about what you know about the subject matter. Stay away from questions that start off with why. This one word makes people defensive and they’ll instinctively feel the need to justify their actions or beliefs.

Making Time
Relationships need attention. If you don’t make time or room in your busy schedule to grow any relationship, they will shatter and crumble. People need to know they are cared for and wanted. Think of how an ignored puppy acts up.

If your desire is to have better relationships with those around you, such as your children or customers, then it will require a bit of effort on your part. If you implement any or all of the above steps you will be amazed at how the relationships around you will begin to change and grow. Be the first to make the changes you would like to see in others. By doing so, you will create a standard that you would want to live by.

Author's Bio: 

Laurie-Ann Murabito is a Results Coach, Author and Speaker who helps companies and individuals by empowering them to make the changes they want for their unique situations. She is available to speak on various topics. For more information call 603-765-6145.

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