Communication is the way we express our perception of reality. Many people don’t realize how very important communication is. Most issues that couples have, or friends have, or family members, or even co-workers have are issues of miscommunication. If you can be a better & more effective communicator of your thoughts and feelings, you will be happier! You will be able to effectively express yourself, feeling free by not holding anything important inside.

Don’t ever assume that someone knows how you feel. Don’t ever get mad at someone because “You should know what I feel/want/like/don’t like!” Are you a mind reader? Didn’t think so. If you’re angry with someone, if you’re concerned for someone’s safety or well-being, if you appreciate someone, if you love someone, if you have anything to say to someone, SAY IT! But do so in a respectful and sincere way.

I challenge you to follow my 4 tips for being a better communicator:

1) Think before you speak.

You’ve heard this phrase for as long as you can remember. But do you actually follow it? Before letting someone know how you feel, go over it in your head to make sure it comes out the way you want it to. I wouldn’t recommend speaking when you’re angry. Cool down, take a break, and then have a constructive conversation.

2) Ask questions; be curious.

Don’t just sit around waiting for someone to give you information, give you advice, or help you out. If you don’t know something, ask. If you’re curious about something, ask. If you need help, just ask. Get to know our world a little better by asking the people around you questions and by starting discussion.

3) Speak with conviction.

Every word you say, mean it and believe it. Only say what you really mean. Don’t say what you think people want to hear. Always say what aligns with your core values. If someone asks for you for opinion, first be thankful that they find you important enough to seek advice from, and then tell them what you really think is best for them, not just what they want to hear.

4) Listen.

From being heavily involved in a public speaking organization, Toastmasters, I have learned that listening is just as important as speaking! In order to be a good communicator, you need to be a good listener. Listen to the needs, wants, and desires of others. Make sure you aren’t just hearing them; make sure you understand what they are saying. If you are ever confused by someone’s words, fear not! Just utilize tip #3!

Utilize your communication skills daily. We were given the ability to speak for a reason. Speak your feelings, desires, and dreams. Be you with your words.

Author's Bio: 

Jordan Brown, 21, studies Communication at Arizona State University. She is a self-proclaimed promoter of positivty and is an aspiring author, motivational speaker, and entrepreneur. Please check out her website here: