A stressful boss is someone who is unreasonable, overly demanding, illogical, absent, intrusive, or “behaviorally challenged” – manipulative, sexually harassing, or even verbally abusive. This situation hurts clients, for it’s a particular kind of misery.
However, it’s not easy to continue working with such a stressful boss, but, here are some tips to help you develop an escape plan, and try to keep your sanity in the meantime:

1. Polish Your Resume
If you don’t have a resume, make one. And if you do have one, make sure that it is up-to-date with your most recent accomplishments (in quantifiable terms), technical skill sets, and generic “marketable” skills that any employer could appreciate. (If you need help on this, I offer “resume review and coaching” as part of Career Counseling sessions).

2. Understand Your Stressful Boss
Many times, a “stressful boss” is someone who has what is known by mental health professionals as a psychiatric “personality disorder.” You might have heard of these, such as the;
a. Narcissistic
b. Antisocial
c. Histrionic
d. Avoidant
e. Borderline

a.Dealing with a Narcissist involves validating that person. They are narcissistic because inside they are defending against a sense of being invisible, devalued, and unimportant, and they over-compensate. Praising, giving attention, and validating these kinds of bosses can help you survive them in the short term. But, you might also have to set limits.

b. For the Antisocial or sociopath, you must tread very carefully. These people are often criminals, and despite their sometimes outward charm, can be very dangerous people, because they lack any conscience or inhibition of their behavior. They might be harassing, embezzling, or falsifying office documents and you might want just to quit and go on a stress-related disability. You might consider “blowing the whistle” on their wrongdoing later, but only with guidance from the police or a trusted mentor. I have been in this position before, and it’s very awkward, but it can be satisfying as a “civic duty” when you report the wrongful behavior from a safe distance.

c. For the Histrionic boss, the important consideration is to let their drama just “wash over” you, and focus only on the core issues that are beneath their hysterics and theatrics. Respond calmly, rationally, and logically when they are “in one of their moods.”

d. For the Avoidant boss, who is not in the office when they are supposed to be, negotiate a means of communicating with them that they can commit to. Texting, emailing, exchange of voice mails, and use of terms like, “If I don’t hear back from you by 3:00 p.m., I will assume that I can go ahead and send the press release, as is.” Or, give them choices: “If I don’t hear back from you on this question, we might lose this sales deal. If you can give me a quick text or email, we can close this deal by Friday.”

e. The Borderline boss is perhaps the most difficult, as these people are struggling with a rather severe psychiatric disability, despite sometimes achieving the high position. Entertainment executives are notorious for this behavior, especially the women. Under pressure from a sexist environment, Borderline women bosses can react with desperation, anger, and irrationality. Being calming, reassuring, consistent, clear, and simplified can help. Borderlines also have a tremendous fear of real or perceived abandonment, so keep in close touch with them so that they feel emotionally safe and reassured that you are always “there for them.” These kinds of bosses might fire you one day, and rehire you the next in a panic. They have no sense of internal affect regulation, so you have to treat them like you would a two-year-old child who is having a temper tantrum – part setting limits, part reassuring.

3. Do Networking to Get a New Job
Don’t hesitate to contact and try to schedule an “informational interview” with a figure in the community whom you admire and want to work for. They might not always agree to meet with you, but if they do, spend 15-30 minutes with them to ask advice, questions about their career, and their current (or future) hiring needs. This kind of initiative might just get you hired. Think also of any mentors, neighbors, friends-of-friends, social media contacts, etc. that you might be able to call, email, have lunch or coffee with, etc. so that you are always making yourself known to people in a position to hire you. The more people who know you are skilled and available the better your chances of escaping the loony bin you currently work in.

4. Get Social Support
Remember that a bad job is hopefully only eight to ten hours a day. Get social support from a partner/spouse, friends, family, neighbors, or even co-workers to decompress and get some respite between challenges at the office by your stressful boss. And if it gets too tough – where your mental or physical health is impaired – bring a grievance to your Human Resources department and negotiate either a severance package or an official leave of disability. Consult with an M.D. on this, especially a psychiatrist, who can sign the forms for you. Document your troubles at work with a psychotherapist, psychiatrist, and general practitioner M.D. Consider temp work in the meantime, or freelance work using your best skills.

Surviving a “sick office”, made sick by a person in charge who has a personality disorder, can be challenging – but many people I know (including myself) have been through it, and live to tell the tale. You will survive, and you will thrive. It takes a combination of coping in the short term and escaping in the long term.

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Author's Bio: 

Juvy Ann is a passionate Author, Life Coach, & Internet Marketer who resides and writes in the Philippines. Currently, she serves as the CEO for IWorld Vision Trading, Inc.

Both persistent and driven, Juvy Ann has dedicated a lot of her time to learning all things business and has been an ambitious entrepreneur since 2012.

Juvy Ann holds a B.S. in Accounting. Additionally, she is the member of the Marine Life Protection Association.

When she isn’t writing, Juvy Ann enjoys going on adventures and traveling. She is also a coffee aficionado. Most importantly, she enjoys spending quality time with her wonderful family. Jo is happily married and a proud mother of 1 beautiful child.

Along with crafting stories, Jo is presently completing her training to become a motivational speaker.