Exercises To Do Together
by Al Link and Pala Copeland


Time for Exercise: full day

Properties Required: none


  1. Designate one day as a “Day of Silence.”
  2. Shut off the phone, and don’t answer the door. You might post a note on your door that says you are not available.
  3. Go through the entire day, from when you wake in the morning until you go to sleep at night, without speaking a single word to each other, but be fully present together in this space of silence you have created.
  4. Don’t ignore each other, but interact physically, sexually, and so on without talking. Communicate in any non-verbal ways you can imagine, but try to avoid a lot of note writing back and forth.
  5. The next day, have a conversation about your experience:
  • What were you thinking and feeling?
  • Was it difficult or easy?
  • What insights did you have?
  • What did you learn about yourself?
  • What did you learn about your lover?


You can do this exercise alone, but there is something very magical about being present with your lover in complete silence for a whole day.

Author's Bio: 

Al Link and Pala Copeland own and operate 4 Freedoms Relationship Tantra. They regularly host lover’s romantic weekends near Ottawa Canada, and weeklong retreats in exotic locations. For more information call toll free from Canada or USA: 1-800-684-5308 International long distance: 1-819-689-5308. Visit their websites, and their blog Ask About Love and Sex or send email: They have four books published including Soul Sex: Tantra for Two, New Page, 2003; The Complete Idiot's Guide to Supercharged Kama Sutra, Penguin, 2007; Sensual Love Secrets for Couples: The Four Freedoms Body, Heart, Mind and Soul, Llewellyn 2007; Tantra Step by Step: 28 Days to Ecstasy, Llewellyn 2007.