Exercises To Do On Your Own
by Al Link and Pala Copeland


Be careful what you pay attention to because you are going to get more of it. You can help people focus on what they do want by asking them the simple question, “What’s good?”

Time for Exercise: one minute

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  1. The next time you greet someone, instead of usual greetings such as “How are you?” “How’s it going?” “What’s new?” ask “What’s good?”
  2. Suggest to everyone you know that they start asking others this simple question.


If you pay attention to how people use language, you will notice that they often phrase responses in negative terms. For example, if you ask someone, “How are you today?” the most frequent response seems to be “Not bad.” If you ask, “How is everything?” they might say, “It could be worse.” When people talk about what they want, they often mention what they don’t want. For example, “I sure hope I don’t get that flu going around,” or “I don’t want to be sick,” or “I don’t want to be poor,” or “I hope my husband is not fooling around on me.”

Generally your consciousness works to create more of what you pay attention to. When you pay attention to what you don’t want, there is a good chance you are going to get not less but more of it. So pay attention to what you do want. For example, “I want to be healthy,” or “I want to have lots of money,” or “I want a relationship based on trust and commitment.”

Author's Bio: 

Al Link and Pala Copeland own and operate 4 Freedoms Relationship Tantra. They regularly host lover’s romantic weekends near Ottawa Canada, and weeklong retreats in exotic locations. For more information call toll free from Canada or USA: 1-800-684-5308 International long distance: 1-819-689-5308. Visit their websites, and their blog Ask About Love and Sex or send email: They have four books published including Soul Sex: Tantra for Two, New Page, 2003; The Complete Idiot's Guide to Supercharged Kama Sutra, Penguin, 2007; Sensual Love Secrets for Couples: The Four Freedoms Body, Heart, Mind and Soul, Llewellyn 2007; Tantra Step by Step: 28 Days to Ecstasy, Llewellyn 2007.