First, let us clarify the purpose of a date: When is on a date with you, it means that she feels attracted to you, otherwise she wouldn't have wasted her time. Also, if a girl agreed to meet you, it means she has some level of comfort and trust towards you, and she's not afraid of you raping her or something like that.
rnThe Purpose of a date is, therefore, to maintain and increase the levels of attraction and trust, and most important, to begin seducing the girl towards physical intimacy.
Men Waste lots of time and effort in order to get dates with attractive women. Think about the money you waste on clothes, the time you spend talking with women on the phone, and the time you spend in bars, clubs and even during the days, trying to meet women. And of course, the fact that you are reading this article means that you also spend time learning how to be successful with women.rnThe sad part in all that, is that as they already get a date with a girl they like, men tend to make many basic mistakes that can completely ruin their dates.rnIn this article we'll review 6 common mistakes that men make when dating women.
Trying to Impress Her
Many believe that first date with a girl should take place in some kind of fancy restaurant. They do it in order to impress her. Other men would take the girl to an expensive bar and buy her drinks.rnHowever, impressing a girl with your money is not going to make her attracted to you.rnYou can take a girl to a simple place. For example, take her to a regular bar, where you can drink a glass of beer. But you can also take her to the park and drink a bottle of wine together, or just have a walk. Don't try to impress women by buying them staff. They are not that cheap.
Being Afraid of Showing High Social Value
Doing be afraid of taking the girl to a place that you know and people know you there. Many men prefer to take the girl to a place where nobody knows them.rnRecently I went to a date in a bar. The bartender came to me to say high, 2 female waiters came to hug me; even the owner passed by and said "hi". I am not any kind a celebrity. It's just a place near my house and I go there a lot with friends.rnI was not trying to impress, but you can understand that the girl began liking me more. The obvious reason is because "Social Value" is one of the male qualities that attract women to men. But in addition to that, if so many people like me, doesn't it mean I am a cool social guy? rnSo if you have a date with a girl, try to take her to your regular place. By the way, if you don't have such a place, I strongly recommend to find a bar that you like, and become the local celebrity. It means that you will know everybody – the managers, the bartenders, the waiters. It can be very useful.
Not Touching the girl from the beginning
If you made the girl meet you on a date, it means that you've probably touched her a lot (unless you met her on the internet, and then it's different). Women usually don't feel comfortable to meet a complete stranger. However, even if you just talked for 10 minutes, touching a woman makes her feel closer to you.rnWhen you meet the girl again on date, give her a hug; even kiss her on the chick. During the conversation, continue softly touching her from a time to time. rnMen wonder how their dates don't end with a kiss: What can you expect? If you want to kiss a girl, make her ready for that, make her comfortable with your touch.
Not Leading
Being a man, means that you will be the one to lead, and women will expect it from you. It doesn't mean that you have to be a control freak. It means that you will decide what happens on the date.rnWomen, in general (there are rare exceptions), are very indecisive, and being a man who leads Is not only attractive, it is one of the reasons why she needs a man in her life.rnHow can you be leading? Here are some examples:rnBe the one to choose the place and locations - Tell here where and when you want to meet her. Don't ask where she wants to go. Just tell her. If she will not like it, she will tell you she prefers a different place.rnDecide where to sit – when you arrive to your venue (bar, café, etc), be a man and choose where to sit. Tell her, "Let's sit here".rnI also like to meet the girl and tell her, "give me a hug". They always do it, and it makes you dominant.rnBeware not to be over-dominant. Be a leader; don't tell her what to do. There is very thin line between leading and dominating. Over the time, you will learn not to cross it.rnLeading is the complete opposite of
being needy, and instead, you tell and lead the girl towards what you want.
Taking her to just one venue
Many men tend to take the girl just to a single place and spend all the time of the date there. rnThere is a proven psychological effect, that proves that people feel closer to each other when they have more common experiences. A great trick to make her feel comfortable with you, is to Take her to more than One Venure during the date.rnI like to begin with a bar, than go to a café, and finish in the park just some bench on the street.rnThink about it: You were in 3 different locations, for her (and for you) it feels like almost having 3 different dates.
Not Understanding Her Signals
Most of the men are tensed and excited when they meet a girl on a date. They are afraid to ruin things, so they don't pay attention to signals the girl gives them. In fact, in many cases the girl will be completely into the guy, but he will miss it.rnOn the end of a date that I had recently, the gir that I was dating, asked me if I needed a drive back home. In fact, I was trying to behave masculine, so I said "No, it's OK". However, the girl wanted to take me home. Through the whole date, I felt that the girl liked me a lot. Can you imagine what would have happened when we arrived back home?rnPay attention to what the girl is trying to signal you. She might give you signs that she wans to kiss you, and she might give you signs that she wants you to touch her more and get physical. And She might want to have sex – She will never tell it to you. Women only use signals