Dear Friend,

… We are generally conditioned through our life experiences that we must deserve love, not only from others, but also from ourselves. This influence comes from our very early childhood. We can all remember the situations in our childhood, when we as little children were punished and our parents acted in a way, that made us feel unloved.

These first impressions on our mind will have had an incredible influence, which many people are unable to shake off for the rest of their lives.

So why is it so important to deeply understand, how our life and self-esteem is depended on unconditional self-love?

... Today I’m going to share with you some insights on this topic that will help you to experience self-love on a deeper level without guilt. This will give you freedom to enjoy life, as you should my friend.

… Well it is so common to see ourselves as physical beings more than spiritual. However without spirit we are worth nothing and so the spirit comes first.

When we go through life, we are and will be faced with so many different situations. In these different situations and relationships with others, we discover more and more about ourselves and what we are made of.

We make many mistakes on the way too, which is part of a learning process. What we also do often is, we make an image of ourselves based on the different roles we play and different behaviors that we express. We attach labels to these roles, actions, emotions and behaviors and so make judgments about ourselves.

These judgments are often what makes us feel unworthy of love. In other words, we feel, we are not good enough and so don’t deserve love.

However this is not true, it is actually far from it. What we are judging is, only the lower part of us, or ego. This is the crucial part we must understand. You are much more and so much bigger than your physical part, mind or ego.

Your spiritual part and potential is infinite, once you understand and realize it. You don’t even need to deserve your love as you are made from it. Your spirit is pure love.

All our being and essence is made for love and everything that is not, is against the laws of nature.

Often people feel too much guilt to love themselves at a core level and it is to do with misconception between narcissism and true self-love.

So today I’d like to shed some light on these vast differences.

Narcissism is based on the love of ego, love of the lower self. This leads a person to see themselves separate from others and the Universe. This separation leads them to being emotionally unavailable for deep relationships with others. This is due to their inability to connect with other people at their core or being.

They appear confident though and as a result attractive, as we know confidence is very magnetic, but at the same time whenever you will be in their company, you will feel weaker (if you are not strong and positive enough of course).

Narcissists are full of themselves; feel special and focused only on building their own strength or in other words strengthening their ego. People can change and I believe in change. However the relationships with narcissist can be very toxic and hard to recover from, as they are one sided and parasitic.

Narcissism is what unconditional self-love is not. It is an opposite in fact. When you love your Self, you love that higher part of you, which is connected to the Universe, God or Source. This is the highest realization and an incredible leverage for you and your inner Power my friend.

Through this unconditional love you will start to experience love towards others. Only by deeply understanding and feeling this connection to yourself and others you are able to become an extraordinary person with amazing qualities. This is nothing to do with selfishness.

I wanted to explain this difference, as I noticed people find it hard to appreciate themselves as they should. This should never be so. Self-love or Self-appreciation is a necessity and not a luxury for our Health, Strength, Success, Prosperity and Positive Inner Calm.

Natural self-confidence comes from a healthy self-esteem. There is nothing more enjoyable than to be in a company with a person, who is naturally confident. They share their confidence with people around them and so others feel uplifted, confident, energetic and enriched by their contact.

7 Keys or Reasons to Love Yourself Unconditionally:

#1. You deserve Unconditional love no matter what you do, are or have done.

#2. The true Self-love makes you an extraordinary person, able to love, connect and relate to others on a core level. Narcissism is toxic and the opposite of unconditional self-love.

#3. Self-love makes you charismatic, magnetic and naturally confident, which are irresistible characteristics for success.

#4. You will enrich not only your world, but also the world of others.

#5. You will have the ability to influence others in a meaningful, positive and uplifting way.

#6. You will gain courage and so lose fear to take action necessary to fulfill your goals and destiny.

#7. You will be able to trust yourself and stop looking outside for answers, recognition, love or help. Which is ultimate freedom. Belief in Self is incredibly powerful.

I hope this information will help you to feel free to love yourself unconditionally as you truly deserve.

Start as soon as today my friend. Make a commitment for at least a week to accept yourself exactly as you are NOW. No matter what you’ve done in the past. No matter of your social status, money, health, color, race, beliefs. Unconditionally!

Let’s do this together.

Now is your turn, please share your thoughts, concerns or stories in the comment section below. I’d love to hear from you.

Author's Bio: 

Solvita Bennett at is sharing her wisdom with people from different backgrounds to find their Inner Peace and Happiness. With more than 20 years of study and practice of Personal Growth coupled with more than 10 years experience in professional teaching gives her the ability to share her ‘Secrets to Inner Peace’ in a Simple, Easy and Practical way.