If you were to ask the average person what they want most, nine times out of ten the answer would be more money. It seems that our culture has been brainwashed into believing that having more – a new car, a new house, new TV - more ‘stuff’ brings happiness. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to move ahead and have nice things but when our happiness depends on having it we will be let down. We all want happiness but sometimes we look in the wrong places. Looking to find happiness in the acquisition of possessions or hoping that another person will bring that to us is a pursuit in disappointment.
Authentic happiness comes from the inside. If you are already happy more money will make your life much more enjoyable but if you don’t have happiness already more ‘stuff’ brings only temporary happiness. Look to find happiness first. How can you do that? Here are the first steps:

1. Decide: that this your time, your life and you are going to be happy. Never underestimate the power that comes from making a commitment.

2. Stay in the moment: most of our unhappiness comes from living in the future or living in the past. Your power is in the moment. When we worry about things that have not happened we are bringing in unhappiness or disappointment from the future. There is no guarantee that it will happen so living in the future is simply taking on disheartening moments that will bring you down. Living in the past, going over past failures and regrets only serves to make us feel bad. Just learn from it and put it behind you.

3. Get Rid of Negative Thinking: Become aware of your thoughts, keep a journal and write down all the negative thoughts you have. When you become aware of your negative thoughts you will more easily recognize them and get rid of them.

4. Do Fun Things: Instead of wallowing in your misfortunes find something fun to do.

5. Appreciate: Look around you focus on all the good things you have in your life. Everyone has something that they can be thankful for – their children, their home, fresh air, singing birds, sunshine, quiet music, etc.

6. Be Around Happy People: As they say, ‘misery attracts company’. Be aware of this and choose to be around people who are cheerful. They will definitely improve your mood.

7. Don’t take Life Too Seriously: Learn to laugh at yourself. Everyone makes mistakes – it’s human. Life has a way of throwing us things we weren’t expecting. When this happens, find a way around it and give yourself time to get over it and move on. Ask yourself, “Will I be thinking about this next year this time”?

P.S Choose to be Happy

Author's Bio: 

Sheila is an image coach and consultant who helps her clients discover their gifts and magnetize their presence so they attract more money, better relationships and joy into their lives. Known for blending personal energy, self-empowerment and wardrobe techniques, Sheila uses simple strategies to inspire her clients to create a style they love, while being true to their authentic self so they can walk into any room poised and confident and have happiness, joy and charisma in their lives. Go to www.sheilaalley.com and download "5Ways to Transform Your Style and Attract Ideal Clients".