Is there anything in life better than sex? The only thing better is even better sex! How do you improve on one of the best things going? We have some tips to make sure you’re getting the most out of your sex life. Sex is an should always be fun and exciting with these moves you’ll be well on your way to blissed-out nights over and over again.

You may think you have it all figured out. You get naked, one thing leads to another and then hopefully at least one of you comes. Ideally, both of you do. But there are so many ways your sex life could be even better! Read on to learn some simple ways to spice it up in the sheets.

1. Slow Things Down:

Rushing through sex might seem like a good means to an end but slowing things down can really make it so much better. You may have the urge to get off as quickly as possible which makes sense because we all want to feel good but drawing out the process can lead to orgasms that are even more intense.

Slowing sex and having more mindful sex can boost your well being. Take your time. Let all your senses be heightened. Kiss for a long time until you can’t handle it anymore. The foreplay will get you so turned on that when it comes to the sex you’ll be hot and steamy. When you do finally climax it will be much more powerful because of all that build-up.

2. Communicate your fantasies:

Sometimes telling your partner your deepest fantasies can be super intimidating. What if they judge you? What if they are not into what you are? What if they want to say no? Being able to live your truth and do things you’re truly turned on by is the best way to have better sex. There are ways you can tell your partner without too much pressure.

Write it down! Maybe write a few options and let them choose. Something about the anonymity in a letter lets us remove ourselves from the tough conversations. Text it to your partner if you’re not old school but be sure to give them options. Your chances of them being into one of your fantasies are much higher when you give multiple options.

Part of communicating fantasies might be to try differnt sex positions with your partner. There are many positions that are sure to spice things in the bedroom, including reverse cowgirl, doggy style, and many more. wrote a good article on some positions to try with your partner. Be sure to be open and honest about trying out new sexual fantasies in the bedroom.

3. Masturbation:

We all know masturbation is a really good time. So much so that some people think it should be taught to children in schools. Did you know it’s one of the best ways to improve your sex life? You can’t expect someone else to be able to fulfill your needs and hit your pleasure points if you don’t even know where they are.

Spend some time solo exploring and you may find new ways that you like to get off. Don’t be afraid of using a toy and setting the mood with yourself. There are tons of toys to enhance male masturbation as well. A prostate stimulator or fleshlight can really elevate your sex life.

4. Lube:

If you’re not using lube it’s time to grow up! Lube is one of the easiest ways to get things wet and fun. You don’t have to be old to get lube into your sex game. Keeping a supply by your bed is a great way to spice things up for you and your partner alike.

We recommend coconut oil as a great natural lubricant. You can buy it at the grocery store so you don’t have to worry about people looking at you strangely. There are some skin allergy concerns when it comes to using synthetic lubes so make sure to try a spot on both partners beforehand to ensure no burning sensation comes along.

5. Use a vibrator:

If you are the one giving or receiving it really does not matter. Having a vibrator in the bed is a great way to put the pleasure into the hands of the lady in your life. You should never be intimidated by something that will only increase the passion in your bedroom.

Keep a small vibrator by the bedside and let your woman use it on herself so she can show you want she likes. You can also have her use it while you’re inside of her. Women know their bodies best and what makes them tick. By keeping a vibrator around she can give you a hot show or ensure that she comes over and over again.

6. Relax:

Sex is not enjoyable for anyone if they’re too tense. One of the best ways to improve your sex life is to make sure you’re not putting too much pressure on yourself or your partner. Smoking weed can help you both get loose and chill out. Weed is legal in a lot of states these days take a trip to the dispensary and let the good times roll.

7. Plan a night:

There is nothing wrong with scheduling a sex date. The anticipation of the date to come can make it that much more exciting when the moment comes. Knowing your partner is ready and waiting to get laid is a huge turn on. Sex a simple text like “I can’t wait to fuck you tonight”. Plant the seed that the night will be hot and passionate and when you get home from work get into it.

8. Play with pain:

Pain lights up similar parts of the brain as pleasure. There is a reason so many couples enjoy a little bondage play. Many people have BDSM fantasies, in fact, it is one of the most popular fantasies reported by people.

To play into this start slow. Do a little spanking or by a small paddle. Try to incorporate hair pulling but start very gently. Always make sure to check in with your partner and get confirmation that your actions feel good.

We hope this guide has helped you think of new ways to make the best thing even better! Choose one or all of these moves and head to the bedroom. You can even share this guide with a partner and open up a conversation about what they would like to experiment with this. Keep your sex life hot an exciting.

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Joseph Nicholls professional Writer And Blogger