9 Great Tips For Married Men
Written by James Bedrock
1)Listen, listen, listen! Put down that newspaper (or TV remote control) and let her know your focus is on her. 2)When she tells you her problems, try not to jump in with advice. A sympathetic ear may be all she needs. (If you have advice to offer, ask her if she wants it. If she doesn’t, then just listen to her. This will mean more than any advice you could give —even though it makes no sense to you. The point is to give her what SHE needs not what you feel you need to give her.) 3)Schedule a date with her once a week. It doesn’t have to be expensive. The goal is simply to create time for just the two of you.You dated her before marriage, which helped you both to fall in love with each other, now date her after marriage to nurture and continue to grow your love. 4)Surprise her with little things that show your affection —a note, a funny card, a small gift, or flowers for no reason. She needs to feel you’re thinking of her. 5)Do little day-to-day things that make her feel taken care of —like filling her empty water glass, bringing her coffee in bed or turning down her side of the bed if you go to sleep before her. 6)Connect with her physically during the day. Kiss her when you wake up, hold her hand sometimes, and touch her in non-sexual ways. She’ll be nicer to you and your sex life may improve. (But if that’s your main motivation it may not, depending on her personality.) 7)Let the kids be your responsibility too. That way, she’ll get some time for herself. (They’re your children too. It gives you the opportunity to connect with them —which they need from you!) 8)Respect her. Don’t make fun of her or berate her just because she doesn’t think the same way you do.(The Bible tells us, “Love protects.” She needs you to “protect” her feelings.) 9) When you’re angry or upset, tell her why. Don’t make her guess. (But be careful. The Bible tells us to "speak the truth in love," —meaning that what you say is to be motivated by your love for her to improve things between you. Things won't improve if you communicate in mean-spirited ways.)
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In the past three years, James Bedrock has sold more books than any other author (according to Bookscan), and in total, David's books have sold an estimated 220 million copies worldwide. Since 2006, one out of every seventeen hardcover fiction books sold was a Patterson title. He is the first author to have #1 new titles simultaneously on The New York Times adult and children's bestsellers lists and is the only author to have five new hardcover novels debut at #1 on the list in one year—a record-breaking feat he's accomplished every year since 2005
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