Preparing For Child Custody Battles

Unfortunately, child custody battles are often part of bitter divorces. If you and your spouse can't reach an agreement about custody, you need to prepare yourself in the event that your custody case goes to trial.

Today, it can no longer be assumed that the mother will get custody of the children. Instead, the courts base their custody decisions on the "best interests of the child", and try to give custody to the parent who will provide the best environment and upbringing for the children.

To win your child custody case, you will need to prove to the judge that it is in the best interest of the children to be with you. In preparing for a custody case, be aware that your parenting skills and daily interactions with your children will be thoroughly inspected by a judge. Just telling the judge that you are a good parent won't be enough. You need provide documentation and testimony from witnesses to back up your parental capabilities.

Keeping detailed, consistent records is critically important in a custody case. You need to be prepared to show the judge that you have gone out of your way to nurture and care for your children. Because this is a battle, you also need to document any short-comings of your spouse that would be relevant to the custody case.

There are a number of ways that you can prove that you are a better parent. Below are some ideas:
1. Record activities with your children on a daily basis to help show that you are heavily involved in your children's life on a continuing basis.

2. Attend all school activities, such as parent-teacher meetings, assemblies, school plays, and musicals. Try to interact with your child's teacher and office support staff in an ongoing manner. Keep record of all the activities that you attend.

3. Be the parent who takes your child to the doctor and dentist. This will help support that you are a nurturing parent, plus provide witnesses that will testify that you are the parent who brought the children in most often.
4. Foster your child's involvement in church and family activities. This will help prove that you are providing for your child's moral upbringing.

5. Take your children on vacations and outings to show that you spend quality time with your children. If possible take pictures and keep mementos for extra documentation.

6. Get witness who have observed you interact with your child over a long period of time to support that you are a good parent. This includes relatives, teachers, doctors, child-care workers, neighbors, and friends.

While you need to emphasize that you are a good parent, you may also need to document the poor performance of your spouse with your children. Documentation on your spouse might include: n· Evidence of an overwhelming work schedule that restricts interaction with the children, nn· Interference with custody, visitation times, or failure to pay temporary support for the children, nn· Incidences of domestic violence, such as police records, photos of bruises, etc, nn· DWI convictions, jail time, or proof of drug use,n n· Evidence of mental illness nn· Activities that might endanger or could be detrimental to the child nn· Any comments the children have made about neglectful, inappropriate, alienating or abusive forms of parenting by the other parent nn· Cohabitating or exposing the children to over-night stays with a significant other,

As you can see, keeping detailed, consistent records is critically important in a custody case. It allows you to pinpoint patterns of interactions or problems that would be important to the judge.

If you are facing a custody trial, you might consider using custody tracking software to help your case. Custody software makes it easy to keep track of all the documentation relevant to your case and organize it into an easy to follow format.