Anatomy of a Female Love Resume

Are you a woman looking to find a steady position in the Romance Department? If yes, then pay attention to the following credentials men look for when scouring the data banks to fill the vacancies.

CLEAR OBJECTIVE – Say it like you mean it. Although men dislike it when women are too aggressive in courtship, it won’t hurt your chances of long-term commitment if you make it clear early on that you’re not going to take any bad behavior sitting down and that there would be consequences for major infractions. Be firm, for instance, against cheating and any form of deceit. When you do, you will earn genuine respect and admiration.

UNAVAILABILITY – Unlike a conventional job resume, a love application requires that you should not be always there when the phone rings, and this necessitates an actual life that you live to the fullest male counterpart or none. Even while waiting for a significant response from a guy you’re dating, celebrate your womanhood in the company of friends and family. A woman who believes in the mantra “I complete me” is much more appealing than one who stares endlessly at the phone waiting for a call-back or one who drops everything in a snap just to be with her boyfriend.

It doesn’t make any sense that while you want your partner to be responsible enough to keep a stable job—and is therefore busy--you reduce yourself to nothing more than a wallflower at a dance where the music has long since faded.

SCHOOLED IN THE SOCIAL GRACES – A woman who desires to be desired must rein in the urge to make the first or any drastic move in order not to offend the sensibilities of the man who is programmed to hunt. Feminist though you may be and advocate gender equality, in romance you leave the chasing to the guy. That’s as simple as it gets.

Men like to think they’re always in control of any situation and feel insulted or impaired when women take charge especially at the start of a courtship.

REFERENCES NOT NECESSARY – Don’t be too quick to jump in bed with him. Some relationship experts even suggest that you wait a whole month before inviting him to share the silk satin sheets with you. That sounds reasonable enough. Although a lot of men like to keep score of their sexual encounters, they are actually turned off by women who agree to have sex too soon. To keep him interested, keep him guessing, and don’t brag about the number of men you’ve been with either. These are character references he won’t appreciate.

EARN EXTRA CREDIT. Men like to maintain a tough exterior but they’re all gooey and soft inside. Show him small acts of kindness and he’ll be appreciative. If, for instance, you know that he’s likely to forget his mom’s birthday and that he hates shopping, then take the initiative to buy his mom a gift. When the day comes, everyone will be happy. His mother will have something wonderful and beautifully-wrapped to open, while you earn extra love points for being thoughtful and enterprising. Finding secure employment in Love Inc. is doable if you are qualified.

There might be rejections along the way but, as with real world job hunting, your experience will be your best teacher in finding the best “career” option for yourself.Good luck!