Body Language Dating Advice

Many people agree that women are far more sensitive to body language than men are. I have to say that in my experience, women can detect all kinds of things from body language. Ask a female friend to describe what’s going on with a person by looking at them, and you’ll be surprised at all the information they’ll give you. So it follows that if women are so in tune with body language, you might as well get some of the basics together so you’re transmitting the right messages. My opinion is that women prefer men who are confident, bordering on arrogant. Most women will tell you that arrogant men turn them off, but I’ve found that if you mix humor with a little arrogance, it’s a killer. So how do you use your body to telegraph confidence? Well, first of all walk upright, hold your head up, and hold your shoulders back. Next, SLOW DOWN your movements and make slower, calculated gestures. Then, make eye contact and keep it when you see women. Don’t look away until they do and kind of squint while raising an eyebrow. I’ve done a lot of work in this area, and I’ve found that by SLOWING DOWN, I create mystery and intrigue. I literally practice slowing down my walk, my gestures, how fast I turn my head, how fast I talk, and even how fast I blink. Also, start taking up more space and opening up your physiology. If you’re seated, keep your legs and arms uncrossed. Keep your legs far apart and your shoulders back. Don’t lean forward; lean back. This might sound a little far out to some people, but these LITTLE details make all the difference when dealing with a woman. It’s amazing how fast most women can detect insecurity, neediness, and low self-esteem. I personally believe that when a man is self-confident (or more specifically, a woman BELIEVES that he is), women are attracted to him on an UNCONSCIOUS level. What I mean is that I think this behavior activates a part of a woman’s brain that can’t help but feel an attraction. If you’d like a model of confidence, watch some James Bond movies. You’ll notice that James almost never smiles, and I can’t remember when I’ve ever seen him laugh. But James is the sex symbol of masculine adventure. Does he do the things that I mentioned above? Of course. That’s where I learned a lot of them. Ha! Another way to demonstrate and project confidence is to PAUSE while you’re talking. Pausing on purpose creates suspense and tension. It’s great. If you combine pauses with serious looks, you will create an air of power and confidence. For example, you might say, “Well, if I were you, I’d just tell her what you think” like so... “Well... (pause) if I were you... (pause and look into eyes with serious look) I’d just tell her what you think.” This creates what’s known as a ‘subtext’ to the communication. On the surface you’re talking about the normal conversation. But underneath, you’re communicating suspense, confidence, and mystery. If you learn how to mix a seductive voice tone and body language with regular conversation, you’ll find that you can get women turned on talking about random things like the weather. Pause often. It will do wonders for your communication style. nn