"Body Pleasure and Relationship – Body Freedom"
(Part 3 of 7)
by Al Link and Pala Copeland

Fortunately, a mate relationship gives you a perfect arena in which to learn to overcome your negative body conditioning and to celebrate your body’s desires. When you are in a loving relationship, consciously sharing your body with another, you can become more at ease in your skin. Under the adoring gaze and lusty caresses of your mate you can learn to know your beauty from the inside out. A fulfilling sex life assists you to feel beautiful through channels that are both chemical (mood-altering endorphins) and emotional (the intimacy of desire). If you feel beautiful, you are.

As integral aspects of deep connection between lovers, pleasure, touching, and sex gain moral legitimacy and spiritual character in the context of monogamous relationship. Monogamous relationships provide a cocoon of commitment, a safe haven for learning the ways of Body Freedom. Consider, for example, touch as one of the most basic sources of pleasure. Touch isn’t optional for a good relationship, it’s essential. Studies dating back more than fifty years document that without touch human beings do not thrive. Without touch you can become emotionally withdrawn and physically and psychically ill. The absence of pleasure might induce emotional instability, possibly correlated with addiction, and encourage abusive, violent behavior. Relationships give you permission to explore touching in intimate ways that range from tenderly affectionate to passionately sexual. Physical pleasure becomes socially acceptable within the context of a relationship.

Affectionate touch and satisfying sex nourish you and your relationship. Sensual nutrition is not just in your head, and it’s definitely more than skin deep. As Lou Reed sings, “I think it’s chemical.” When you give and receive loving, sensual touch, endorphins and oxytocin surge through your system. Not only do these powerful chemicals make you feel great while you’re caressing but they also fuel the desire for more touches later. By upping your touch quotient, you can satisfy more than just your partner’s skin hunger; stress release, comfort, relaxation, and healing are all at your fingertips.

Author's Bio: 

Al Link and Pala Copeland own and operate 4 Freedoms Relationship Tantra. They regularly host lover’s romantic weekends near Ottawa Canada, and weeklong retreats in exotic locations. For more information call toll free from Canada or USA: 1-800-684-5308 International long distance: 1-819-689-5308. Visit their website www.tantra-sex.com and their blog www.askaboutloveandsex.com or send email: 4freedoms@tantraloving.com They have four books published including Soul Sex: Tantra for Two, New Page, 2003; The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Supercharged Kama Sutra, Penguin, 2007; Sensual Love Secrets for Couples: The Four Freedoms Body, Heart, Mind and Soul, Llewellyn 2007; Tantra Step by Step: 28 Days to Ecstasy, Llewellyn 2007.