Pursuit of Light, An Extraordinary Journey - by Sandy Brewer - is a rave triumph of the human spirit. An authentic, true-life page turner, horrific and inspirational, brilliant and compelling, filled with practical teachings of empowerment and compassion. Beautifully blending wisdom, humor and pathos, it profoundly demonstrates an uplifting pathway out of darkness into light.

Book Excerpt

Chapter 22
Let’s have a brief review.
No true change is going to happen without choice. And no true choice is going to be implemented without will, heavily laced with more than a little courage. One of the gutsier choices has to be the willingness to give up one’s story. A story is: My mother plotted to kill me (which mine did), and so I am screwed forever. Too dramatic for our daily lives? A story is: The clerk in the store was rude to me but not the skinny blonde next to me, so it must be because I’m fat or drab or that the wart on my nose hasn’t fallen off yet. Or maybe all three. A story is: My partner just yelled at me and now I have to be a victim because, after all, people always yell at me…. Nobody ever, ever treats me right. I never get any breaks. It always rains.

Basically a story is anything we get attached to—and play and replay—in order to validate that we don’t have any worth. It’s the addictive drama—the head noise of inner war. Even if everyone is doing what we think they’re doing, we still have to detach from the story—the idea that our value is on the line. It’s not. So, our persistent three-act plays, with all their good guy/bad guy dialogues, have got to go. I know that doesn’t seem fair. And it’s probably not. But it’s required anyway.

These are the choices necessary to achieve change:
Take a moment, breathe deep, and remember this is only a list. Do with it what you will.

1. Adopt a living-philosophy/point of view/passionate belief system that is greater than your history and/or pain. Mine is: God and I are one.

2. Make the choice that you are not a victim. I don’t care who did what, when, or where. There’s a good chance I’ve got a story that can top yours, and, trust me, I am not a victim. You, too, are not a victim. Not unless you give someone else your mind, and you are always in charge of that. No excuses. Adopting the consciousness and lifestyle of a victim is a choice. It is not a result over which you have no power.

3. Let go of your attachment to drama. It’s theatre, and not very good theatre, played out on a stage in a cluttered attic. Change your mind. Constant drama is a way of trying to be special; it’s a way of trying to validate that you are alive and important. It’s based on the perspective that you don’t feel special and don’t really feel alive or connected in your core. If your life is a freakin’ soap opera, then chances are that you are compensating for a shit load of unworthiness. You’re really not unworthy, but you’re building a life based on your fear that you are.

4. Do unto others…. Life is in many ways a mirror. The ways in which you repeatedly, both overtly and covertly, criticize/judge others are always a reflection on yourself. If criticizing and judging others is a reflection back to yourself (and it is), that’s not a kind way to treat someone with whom you’re supposed to be falling in love—namely you.

Well, I think that’s enough listing for right now. Is this list doable?


If you haven’t already done it, can it change your life?

Indubitably. In the doing is the undoing.

Will it take devotion, commitment, effort, and work?

Yes, but we are all worth our own effort.

Is the list simple to understand?



Not on your life.

But don’t forget, it’s very, very doable.

If we have the courage to reach for change, life will find a new way to dance with us, leading, gliding, tripping, and bumping us into new pathways. New lights. New potentials that let us unfold a life greater than the stages of our past. Greater than the stories that keep contracting us into the limitations and darkness of our fears.

Author's Bio: 

Sandy Brewer is an author, speaker, therapist, coach and humanitarian. For over 30 years she has inspired thousands of people to move beyond their own personal challenges in order to explore and embrace the possibilities in their own lives.
The abuse Sandy endured as a child was so horrific that many would not have survived it. But she did survive it and more. As Sandy examined her abuse, along with the resulting crippling depression, she began the work to dismantle the pain of her past, bringing light and hope into it, and emerging a victor. She developed seminal techniques that enabled her to not only overcome, but literally gain strength from these experiences. Enlightened and empowered by her journey, Sandy shares what she learned with others. www.PursuitofLight.com.

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