In A Rut?

Question: ``I feel like I'm stuck in a rut. Any ideas on how to get out of it and move on?''

Answer: Most of the time when we are ``stuck in a rut'' it's because we are thinking very habitually; the same thoughts stream through our minds over and over again. The same things bother and frustrate us and the same worries continue to haunt our minds.

So, one solution to being ``stuck'' is to consciously think differently. Pay attention to your thinking and notice what kinds of thoughts you are producing. Once you see a pattern that isn't serving you well, take note of what it is and think differently. For example, if you notice yourself worrying about money (or anything else for that matter), catch yourself in the act, so to speak, and remind yourself to try something new. Think something like, ``I'll be fine'' or ``Worrying won't help,'' and then don't allow the old thoughts to return. If they do, drop them! Then, notice how you feel. Better, I'd guess.

Another helpful strategy to deal with being in a rut is to change your daily habits. You'll be pleasantly surprised at how effective this can be. If you're in the habit of drinking every night (or regularly) see what it's like to stop for a period of time. Even a single day can give you a fresh perspective. Or, if you always read novels, try going to a bookstore or the library and picking up some non-fiction for a change. Then, go home and read the entire book. The book can be on any subject that interests you, but you'll be amazed at how many new ideas enter your mind.

Finally, if you're one of those people who tell yourself that you will do those things you've always wanted to, but only after ``life settles down,'' or you have ``more time,'' tell yourself that you've waited long enough. Starting today, choose something that's really good for you and do it before you do anything else. For example, go for a walk or a jog, or get some kind of exercise, first thing in the morning. Or, if you've always wanted to meditate, but keep waiting for the right time, start a new routine, today.

Same idea with Yoga or gentle stretching, or reading that new book you just bought! The key with any of these ``good for you'' activities is that you prioritize them ahead of work or other things you ``have to do.'' Changing your routine in this way is a fabulous way to get a fresh outlook on life.

If you're in a rut of some kind, it's important not to take it, or yourself, too seriously. Keep your spirits light and know that a slight change may be all you need to feel happier right away.