Change – Resisting Resistance!

I have a resistance to change in things that I feel comfortable with and that I'm used to. Dennis Quaid – American Actor

As I write there’s some great guys making a back garden out of a jungle and one in the front sand blasting clean my paving. Both jobs have needed doing since I don’t know when. I kept on saying I would get round to them... but never did!

Now isn’t that a great metaphor for those things which niggle away at us under the radar? Those things which we know are there but tend to turn a blind eye to.

“Yeah... I know I need to sort that out and I will,” you tell yourself. And the days turn into weeks, the weeks turn into months, the months turn into years, and the years turn into decades.

Why?

Because:

a) you’d have to take responsibility and do something about it, and

b) things would change! Shriek, horror...”No, not CHANGE!!!”

All of which means you’d be losing stuff too. So, even if the loss is a good one, like a destructive relationship or an activity which is causing you and/or others harm, you cling to it like billy-o. Better the headache you know than the headache you don’t know!

It’s likely that at least two/three clients will hear me say something like...
“You’ll look back to this in six months’ time or a year and you’ll say to yourself ‘this is one of the best things I’ve ever done’.” And you know what, it always is!

When we wake up and act in line with our integrity, for our wellbeing and/or that of others, it’s sheer magic. It might or might not be painful to begin with but, for sure, there’s a relief in taking action and pleasure in the outcome once we’re through.

So what in your life needs changing? When are you going to start resisting resistance by taking action now?

Here’s some tips to help you do just that!...

#1 What Do You Want?

First of all you need to know what needs changing AND most importantly what you want instead so that it pulls you into your future. So, what is it? And what do you want instead? Make what you want compelling enough to whet your appetite and motivate you towards getting there.

#2 Make A Motivational End Result

Now think of your end result and write about it as if it were happening now, including the date. Doesn’t matter if it gets revised... it’s a date to work towards for now. And write about your experiences having that thing you want so much using all of your senses. I see, I hear, I feel... even perhaps I smell and I taste! Now you’re cooking!

#3 Manage The Gremlins

Feel the old gremlins holding you back? Fear, anxiety, apprehension? Nothing but nothing was ever gained without a bit of sweat. One of my favourite ways to manage my state... (MANAGE not suppress! It’s OK to feel those feelings because you’re changing!)... is to sing the opening lines of the Lumberjack song from Monty Python...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5zey8567bcg

And if that doesn’t do it for you, find one that does.

#4 Resource Yourself

Enlist the help of people you know will support you. And work out what other resources you need. Do you need to develop some skills? Do you need to develop a particular personal characteristic, e.g., patience? Think how you might develop it, e.g., read a biography or autobiography of someone patient and copy how they do it!

#5 Constantly Re-connect With Your Vision

Draw a picture or get a symbol for what you want and put it in a prominent place where you can see it. Then each and every day smile broadly when you see it and tell both you and ‘it’ you’re one day closer to achieving your very compelling and delicious outcome.