Treatment works. However, getting the individual to treatment is easier said than done. The exact nature of their problem may not be readily identifiable and those who could help are too close to the problem to be helpful. Family members, corporate colleagues and most clergy are not in the business of treatment. A qualified professional intervention specialist is.
You and your loved one may never have this opportunity again. No intervention should be undertaken without advice and counsel of a professional experienced in the intervention process.
Interventions are delicate matters and it is important that they be done properly.
Confrontations, threats and arguments have proven useless. The denial of the problem within the family and hesitance about treatment blurs reality. A good interventionist works with the family and educates them about the benefits of the intervention and treatment following.
The interventionist helps take family members off the "hot seat". Intervention is the process of presenting reality to such individuals in a receivable way. It is an invitation, not a confrontation, to accept help. Intervention is the most loving, powerful and successful method yet for helping people accept help. A quality, effective intervention is done with love and respect in a non-confrontational, non-judgmental manner.
The First Step Is The Hardest
This crisis is an opportunity for change. You or your loved one may feel alone and scared? That's normal. An Interventionist can help guide you through this difficult time. You're not alone. This process could save your life or your loved ones life.
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Are You Willing To Take The First Step?
DON'T WAIT! Addiction is progressive. It always gets worse, never better. And it won't go away. You and your family don't have to keep suffering. Change is possible. You can finally find hope. But you must take the first courageous step to do something different while all other attempts have failed. You have nothing to lose but your pain.
Intervention Is An Act Of Great Love
It is a process by which loving family and friends help break the illusion of the addict briefly to enable him or her to see that they have a serious problem and it needs to be addressed immediately.
Replacing Fear With Love
At the intervention, the addict feels surprised and very scared. The addicted person knows their past behavior has been shameful. They expect judgment and condemnation.
PHASE 1 - "The Intervention"
During the first part of the intervention family and friends are usually asked to prepared letters, and when read are expressions of love, fond memories, and respect. They indicate in their letter to the addict that things have changed. Life is different now that they are using.
Replacing Shame With Grace
They also tell the addict that they have a disease and it cannot be overcome on their own. They let them know they are not a bad person but a sick person. Family and friends love them and want them to get the help to be restored. They invite him or her to enter treatment immediately. The majority of addicts are so overcome by this demonstration of grace and love that they respond positively and immediately go into treatment.
PHASE 2 - Replacing Denial With Determination
If the addict does not respond to this offer, the second part of the letters are read. These include specific first hand accounts of what people have seen of the addicts use and subsequent behavior. This is accompanied by a statement of how the family or friend felt at this time. This is followed by a statement that the loved one is ready to help the addict live, but not help the addict die. (Friends and families are often enablers.)
Enabling is a misguided act of love, which spares the addict from the consequences of his or her actions and enable the disease to continue its course. When the addict is in treatment, education for the family will help loved ones identify and stop their enabling behaviors.
PHASE 3 - Replacing Enabling With Boundaries
Each person will then state their "bottom line". This is a statement of how they have enabled the addict to continue their self-destructive behaviors, and how they plan to respond in a different way in the future. This new picture of the future is very disturbing to the addict.
They cannot survive without a network of enablers. Of those who resist the offer of love and grace, the majority will agree to treatment at this time. About 85% to 95% of addicts agree to enter treatment after these three phases.
Committing To Save Your Loved One
If the addict still refuses treatment at this point, they usually believe that people will not stick to their bottom lines. The addict may even try to quit on their own. When they relapse (and they will) this will be a test of your bottom line. If you stick to it, the majority of addicts at this point will agree to enter treatment.
The Disease Is The Enemy
Our loved one is not the villain, but rather the victim of the disease of addiction. Families and friends are also the victim of the disease. The common enemy is the disease, not the victim. We need to continue to love, support and encourage the addict while maintaining zero tolerance for their disease to continue it’s destruction.
Families need to unite and continue to love the addicted person and fight the disease together. Recovery is not a spectator sport. We don't stand by and watch the addict try to recover alone. We fight the disease by getting involved in recovery as a family unit.
Together, the addict and the family can recover from this disease. A trained interventionist, will walk with you every step of the way from the preparation of the intervention to the follow up afterwards.
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I have battled drug and alcohol addiction for 30-years. Over those years I have experience first-hand the destruction that addiction brings, not only to the addict but to family members as well.
Today, I live life happy, joyous and free one-day-at-at-time. Sobriety is a gift and it has given me my life back again. It is only from my own experience with many aspects of substance abuse that I am able to give back to you.
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