What is emotional freedom? You cannot change or control your emotions. You can learn to accept or release them; this is an emotional freedom definition.

Emotions control our thinking, behaviour and actions. They also affect our bodies.
When you have an emotion you all know that you can feel it in your bodies. If you ignore it, it stays stuck in your bodies until you gain emotional freedom.

Most of us have been raised to repress our emotions and this is the way we live our lives. We were raised to believe that certain emotions are bad and they have to remain hidden. Then when we became adults we do not even know how we are feeling, we lack emotional freedom.

The dictionary definition of emotions is :
A mental state that arises spontaneously rather than through conscious effort and is often accompanied by physiological changes; a feeling: the emotions of joy, sorrow, reverence, hate, and love. A state of mental agitation or disturbance.

I lived most of my life repressing emotions and the day that I decided to sit down and feel them. I could not do it. I didn't know the difference. How do I feel? Angry? No, sad? No , I do not know.

As I said, your emotions control your thinking, behaviour and actions. What are the results of your actions? Have you ever regretted and action you have taken? Why? , because you usually take action according to the predominant emotion you are having.

We are afraid of our feelings, because we do not want to loose control, or we do not want to feel the pain. How do we repress our emotions? Have you notice that when we experience a situation that is painful or difficult we look for something else to do?. Like get busy, think about something else, eat something, etc?. When we do this, what we are doing is avoiding the emotion and replacing it with something else.

The emotions remains in our bodies until we finally find a healthy way to release them and we gain emotional freedom.
Six ways to avoid feeling emotions:

· Ignoring the feeling,
· Over eating
· Over exercising
· Using tranquilizers
· Excessive drink of alcohol
· Excessive reading or TV

Anything that takes us away from the pain will do it. So, why do you need emotional freedom? Because if you don't release them , they will control your lives.

Nobody will make us to feel better except ourselves. Have you ever noticed that people with a lot of negative emotions like anger, envy, revenge, etc don't have any energy?. People who are able to release these emotions are lighter and expanded and have a lot of energy within.

Have you ever noticed that when you are happy you have a lot of energy within you? , You can think more clearly, you can be present, etc. I think this is the main reason why we need emotional freedom. We cannot go around being angry and trying to smile and appear to be happy because we won't be able to do that, and if we try it will take a lot of energy and we will end up exhausted.

Most of the problems you face an keep you always in the same place is because you are not able to deal with you emotions. Have you ever listened to somebody talking about a past hurt, and when you asked when did that happen?, they said: oh around 20 years ago. How can you live a fulfilling life is your are still stuck in a 20 years ago hurt, full of resentment and revenge?.

"A man who is master of himself can end a sorrow as easily as he can invent a pleasure. I don't want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them". - Oscar Wilde

© Carla Valencia.Building Self Esteem

Author's Bio: 

Carla's professional background includes 15 years working as a Software Developer and Technical Writer with import-export and manufacture companies. Her passion about self-esteem issues had leaded her to write about her personal experiences.

She has been examining alternative ways of dealing with life on many different levels.She studied Metaphysic, Buddhism, EFT-CC ( Basic EFT Certificate of Completion) and participated in several workshops to work inside herself. She's been using several techniques since the last 10 years like Ho'oponopono, EFT, Rebirthing , Shadow Work and Meditation.

Her passion: "Give her personal experience to others", her expression: "My life is my teaching". Visit: Building Self Esteem for more information.