Seperated giving the vibe???

HI,Im recently seperated getting divorce for sure and I am trying to date. I am above average looks and confident, have money and really love to treat ladies good. Now I keep blowing it because of this stupid GAME we need to play. I was the master before I got married now Im a disaster. In NJ you must play the game ..the challenge thing gezz I will put a stop to making myself so availible.asking them out. I must say we should get together and do something (Nice!) Ill give a few scenarios.

(1) I met a beutiful latina girl I would give up my next 20 years for she was so pure and sweet. I didnt give her too much attention but was nice so she warmed up to me. At the end of the night she said we should get together give me your #. So I did and said here if you want to call. She never called and I never asked for her #.

(2). I met an old friend in a bar she was fine so i didnt want to seem so availible so I was dropping by after talking to a friend eventually she said stay here and talk so I said ill be back in a minute she put her jacket on and said coldly "we will be back" it never happend. So i sent an email saying why did you blow me off? She said i didnt so we are talking now but she has the ball now

(3). When I go to clubs the girls check me out and smile so i go over and talk, then the chase is over?? It never seems to work out in a club I think thats the nature of the meet markets, someone steer me right please I am smart enough to figure it out but dont have a year to do it!!!! They all want an honest sincere guy my ass! Jimmy nnn