<Time for Exercise: one hour

Properties Required: Buy a three-to-four foot (1.0–1.25 m) length of one inch (2.5 cm) diameter doweling or cut a section from the handle of an old implement. Gather together tidbits of colored string and construction paper, glue, earrings, jewelry, painted trinkets, small children’s toys, money (coins and bills), small figurines of people, animals or caricatures, etc.


  1. Decorate the doweling.
  2. Offer it as a symbol of the commitment of your lingam (Sanskrit for penis) to your lover.
  3. Stand it in a corner or hang it from the ceiling of your bedroom.
  4. Swear an oath to your lover that if you decide to have sex outside your relationship, you will take the sacred lingam down. Keeping the sacred lingam in place symbolizes your sexual commitment to your lover—a gift freely and willingly offered in the name of love.
Author's Bio: 

Al Link and Pala Copeland own and operate 4 Freedoms Relationship Tantra. They regularly host lover’s romantic weekends near Ottawa Canada, and weeklong retreats in exotic locations. For more information call toll free from Canada or USA: 1-800-684-5308 International long distance: 1-819-689-5308. Visit their websites www.tantra-sex.com, www.sexyspiritualrelationships.com and their blog www.askaboutloveandsex.com or send email: 4freedoms@tantraloving.com They have four books published including Soul Sex: Tantra for Two, New Page, 2003; The Complete Idiot's Guide to Supercharged Kama Sutra, Penguin, 2007; Sensual Love Secrets for Couples: The Four Freedoms Body, Heart, Mind and Soul, Llewellyn 2007; Tantra Step by Step: 28 Days to Ecstasy, Llewellyn 2007.