Time for Exercise: five to 15 minutes

Properties Required: magic wand


  1. Make a magic wand from materials you find around the home, anything simple or elaborate, but beautiful.
  2. Take turns with the wand.
  3. Say to your lover, “With this wand I now grant you three wishes of your heart. Each time I touch your head with this wand, make a wish.”
  4. Share your wishes with your lover if you like.


This is yet another example of focusing your attention and intention consciously on what you do want. The more we all do this, the better the world will become.

Excerpted from the book Sensual Love Secrets for Couples: The Four Freedoms of Body, Mind, Heart and Soul, by Al Link and Pala Copeland, Llewellyn, 2007

Author's Bio: 

Al Link and Pala Copeland own and operate 4 Freedoms Relationship Tantra. They regularly host lover’s romantic weekends near Ottawa Canada, and weeklong retreats in exotic locations. For more information call toll free from Canada or USA: 1-800-684-5308 International long distance: 1-819-689-5308. Visit their websites, and their blog or send email: They have four books published including Soul Sex: Tantra for Two, New Page, 2003; The Complete Idiot's Guide to Supercharged Kama Sutra, Penguin, 2007; Sensual Love Secrets for Couples: The Four Freedoms Body, Heart, Mind and Soul, Llewellyn 2007; Tantra Step by Step: 28 Days to Ecstasy, Llewellyn 2007.