Heart Freedom Exercises
Exercises To Do Together
by Al Link and Pala Copeland

Eye Gazing

So through the eyes love attains the heart:
For the eyes are the scouts of the heart,
And the eyes go reconnoitering
For what it would please the heart to possess.
Guiraut de Borneilh, Poet

Hours, days, or even weeks might pass by without couples really looking at one another. The brief, but powerful, practice of conscious eye gazing forges unequivocal bonds. Eyes are gateways for love. Through real and true eye contact you share your soul.

Time for Exercise: two minutes

Properties Required: none


  1. Sit or stand facing each other.
  2. Decide who will send love first.
  3. Relax your face. Let your eyes be soft.
  4. The first sender allows all his love to pour out through his eyes into his partner’s.
  5. She receives it, opening her heart to welcome his love.
  6. No words are spoken. There is no movement of arms or hands or body, just the flow of love for one full, rich minute.
  7. Switch roles.
  8. For one minute the second sender allows her love to pour out through her eyes into her partner’s.
  9. He opens his heart to receive her love.


This is not a staring contest. Looking deeply into one another’s eyes is very powerful. You might feel uncomfortable or vulnerable. You might laugh from nervousness or fear. However, if you can bare yourself and share your love in this simple but profound way, your heart will open. You might even shed tears of joy.

Author's Bio: 

Al Link and Pala Copeland own and operate 4 Freedoms Relationship Tantra. They regularly host lover’s romantic weekends near Ottawa Canada, and weeklong retreats in exotic locations. For more information call toll free from Canada or USA: 1-800-684-5308 International long distance: 1-819-689-5308. Visit their website www.tantra-sex.com and their blog www.askaboutloveandsex.com or send email: 4freedoms@tantraloving.com They have four books published including Soul Sex: Tantra for Two, New Page, 2003; The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Supercharged Kama Sutra, Penguin, 2007; Sensual Love Secrets for Couples: The Four Freedoms Body, Heart, Mind and Soul, Llewellyn 2007; Tantra Step by Step: 28 Days to Ecstasy, Llewellyn 2007.