Three Out of Three

“I want you. I need you. I love you.” Could there be any sentences sweeter than these to hear your lover speak?

Time for Exercise: 15 minutes

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  1. Prepare in advance what you will say to your lover for each of these three statements of endearment. What words will you say that accurately and honestly express how much you care for, desire, love, and need your partner? Give some specific examples for each statement.
  2. Sit your lover down and gaze into his eyes as you tell him how and why you want, need, and love him.


    Just saying “I want you, I need you, I love you” is far less powerful and moving than if you tell him why and how. For example:

    I want you. You turn me on like crazy. I think about you all the time. I can’t wait to get home from work to touch and smell and kiss you. Holding you in my arms is being in heaven. I want to grow old with you. I want to spend the rest of my life with you.

    I need you. When you are with me, I feel invincible, as if I can handle anything the world throws my way. If you left, my heart would crack and I would fill buckets with tears. I like myself most when I am with you. You bring out the best and most beautiful in me. Together we can do anything we set our minds to do. You are my best friend.

    I love you. When I look into your eyes little stars fly out into me. Your smile lights up the darkness. Your touch removes all of my fears and doubts. When we make love, it is as if there was only one of us. When we make love, we join hands with God.

Author's Bio: 

Al Link and Pala Copeland own and operate 4 Freedoms Relationship Tantra. They regularly host lover’s romantic weekends near Ottawa Canada, and weeklong retreats in exotic locations. For more information call toll free from Canada or USA: 1-800-684-5308 International long distance: 1-819-689-5308. Visit their website and their blog or send email: They have four books published including Soul Sex: Tantra for Two, New Page, 2003; The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Supercharged Kama Sutra, Penguin, 2007; Sensual Love Secrets for Couples: The Four Freedoms Body, Heart, Mind and Soul, Llewellyn 2007; Tantra Step by Step: 28 Days to Ecstasy, Llewellyn 2007.