If I was able to go into a time machine and travel to visit myself when I was 18 years old I would have told myself not to have a girlfriend because it was robbing me of enhancing my pick up skills. On a much deeper level, having that girlfriend for year kept me from experiencing other girls, which meant that it would take me a lot longer to learn what I really wanted in a girl. Don't misunderstand me, I was very happy to have a girlfriend and Jennifer was my first real girlfriend. We were both in love, or at least what I thought love was as an 18 year old young man. Today I look back at that 18 year old and can only smile at how little I knew about pick up, dating, and even love. Back then I thought I was going to marry her. She had every quality that I looked for in a young woman.

She was smart, beautiful, and unselfish. Little did I know that everyone appears that way when you develop strong feelings for them. Your brain actually tunes out their faults and focuses only on their good qualities. I thought our love would last forever. I was totally clueless. I wish I knew what percentage of men married their first or second girlfriends and then compare them to their specific divorce rate. Based on my observations and experience as well as talking to thousands of men and women over the years, I've come to the conclusion that men who marry their first or second girlfriend have significantly higher divorce rates than people with more dating experience. It's already a fact that people who get married under the age of 21 have an 80% divorce rate!

So where am I going with all this? The main point of this article is to point out that in order to meet and find the woman of your dreams you have to know who she is. Put another way, you have to know EXACTLY what you want in a woman. This is why I advise men not to get married before the age of 30 and to have dated no less than 25 different women. Why? Because I guarantee that what a man finds attractive at age 18 and at age 30 are like night and day. They are totally different because one has more life experience than the other. I realize there are exceptions to this, but this is true far more often than not.

I once heard a woman say "I had to date a lot of frogs to find my prince." Little did she know that what she was saying was very profound. This sentiment holds true for men too. You've got to date a lot of freaking frogs to find your princess and even then you cannot let down your guard. I once had a friend fall in love with a woman who used to be model. She was stunning, smart, and very sweet. At least that's what I thought of her when I first met her. But time has a way of allowing people to show their true colors. After a year of dating (my friend ignored my 3 year rule) my friend proposed to his girlfriend. She was happy and excited.

Then my friend took out the ring and put it on her finger. To his surprise she gave it back to him and demanded a bigger ring! My friend thought he loved this woman and did not want to lose her, so he took out a 2nd mortgage on his house and bought her a bigger ring. I didn't have the heart to tell him that if it was me I would have dumped her right there on the spot. Any person who places more important on material things versus traits such as love, honesty, truth, etc. is not the right person to have a serious relationship with. But my friend was blinded by "love".

This is what I mean by always being on your guard. You should never loosen your standards and your ability to qualify a woman no matter how much time you have invested with her. A few years ago I was dating this attractive Latin woman who was 25 years old and studying for her doctorate degree, so she had brains as well as a pretty face and a smoking body. But when I caught her cheating on me I dumped her right there on the spot. No amount of crying, pleading, or begging would have caused me to change my mind. Why? Because the most important person in any relationship is me. Why in the world would I give this young lady another chance to screw me? She wanted to remain friends, but I told her I had more friends than I could handle, I did not need another one. Within a week I had already set up 8 more dates using a couple online dating websites.

So if you want to meet the woman of your dreams you first have to know exactly what you want in a woman. You can only learn this by dating a lot of women. It doesn't matter what your parents taught you. It doesn't matter what you think you want in a woman because if you don't experience these things for yourself you will never internalize them. Sure, some men get lucky and end up marrying the woman of their dreams, but the odds and statisitcs prove that it's only some men who get "lucky". I don't rely on luck and neither should you. So go out and make a massive amount of approaches, go out and date a lot and have fun. Because each woman you date brings you closer to that woman of your dreams.

Author's Bio: 

Rod Cortez is an international dating coach who can show you proven methods for meeting, talking to, and dating attractive women. His free newsletter will quickly teach you how: thedatepro.com