If It Feels Good, Do it?

I don’t think so…. A lot of people these days are promoting the idea thast you need to focus on feelings, and go in a direction of following good feelings and avoiding the negative ones.nYou know, this can be very problematic and especially for those like me who have a tendency to gravitate toward the easier way out. Think about it. You wake up. You feel you don’t want to go to work, because you don’t like your job, or for whatever reason. You decide to trust the feeling inside that’s telling you to stay in bed or go look for another job. Wait a minute. What if it’s a question of you being physically tired or your selfish ego telling you to avoid the pain?nYeah, but it might make me feel good if I quit now and then look for the job.nn Don’t make sense, right?nn So how do we know if we’re making the right decisions or not?nEasy! Develop a life of Present Moment Awareness, Acceptance Releasing and Filling.n nPresent Moment Awareness means being able to bring yourself to this moment as fully as possible and being able to be more aware of the things that going on around you. Some evidence of presence would be that you find yourself being more at ease, you are more aware of sounds and sights around you. You also become more aware of your thinking and emotions while being consciously aware of the practical aspects of work, family, etc. You can have a sensing of all of these at the same time or some of them. A good indication of not being present is when you are not aware of these things.n With practice you get better at bringing yourself back to presence and it becomes easier to stay here. And remember, it is not a question of the practice being primary. The practice is a tool. Being here is the issue and answer. You use the practice as a secondary tool to get and stay here. Along with present moment awareness, it’s also important to learn to Accept and Release negative feelings/emotions.n It works better than trying to rely on changing a behavior with cognitive thinking processes. Think about it. You have a specific set of basic emotions that are pretty much constant. An emotion of anger is just that, an emotion of anger. A thought about anger can produce a whole lifetime of theory on how to cope/heal/replace the negative thought. So, let the emotion emerge. No matter trivial or intense it may be. Become aware of it, and accept it without negatively judging yourself or others as much as you possibly can.nTalking to it as an entity can be effective in that you are giving it its own reality, and not identify with it as being you. You can use words such as, “I see you, and I welcome you or I accept you and I release you now and forever.” It might be good to focus on the releasing part more so, and say I release you now and forever several times. It’s best to take you time in doing this for better processing. Also, slower gives you more time to be presently aware, and helps you develop more of your spiritual presence and less of the selfish ego trying to rush you through the process. Once you’ve done these three basics steps, it’s important to follow up with speaking to yourself and saying, “I now fill myself with (a positive and if possible opposite emotion of what you released).” It’s really that simple, and the better teachers are more and more emphasizing the same concept. Try it for a few months. If you can practice three times a day for 5-15 minutes that great. You can benefit from any time at all of practice. nEventually you can develop a life of presence throughout day. Peace and Love, Ron FigueroannRon Figueroa has been in the healing field for over thirty years.nHe is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Hypnotist and has expertise in various energy and holistic healing techniques.nYou can contact Ron at: 845-399-2098 or www.centerforwholelifehealing.comnnnnnn