Simply put, romance is pretense. It is pretending that everything is not only alright, but that it is absolutely perfect – if only for a little while.

Romance is not food. Romance is attitude. Romance is atmosphere. Romance is using details to create a mirage.

A spaghetti and meatballs meal can be just as romantic as grilled steak with vintage wine.

Ideally, serve what your sweetie likes best, but if you don't know what that may be, or if you find it too difficult to prepare, don't be concerned. Ultimately, YOU are the treat for the evening!

Here are a few culinary suggestions:

A) Enchanting Chicken Rendezvous – 60 minutes
Appetizer: Crusty bread and dipping oil, served with a plate of cheese
Entrée: Lemon Chicken, Roasted Broccoli, Buttery Pasta
Dessert: Warmed peach halves with cinnamon and Cool Whip

B) Starry-Night Salmon – 45 minutes
Appetizer: Honeyed Strawberries, served with a plate of cheese
Entrée: Roasted Salmon, Baked Asparagus, Buttered Baked Potato
Dessert: Individual Rice Pudding Cups

C) Passionate Pork Prelude – 70 minutes
Appetizer: Mozzarella Tomato Salad on a bed of lettuce
Entrée: Gravy Pork Chops Nestled in Rice, Hot Green Beans
Dessert: Drizzled Honey Sundaes


Leave off the appetizer
Do prep work the day before
Substitute with something easier; i.e., instead of a Mozzarella Tomato Salad appetizer, substitute purchased, pre-cut fruit and dip
Get all the ingredients out before you start
Do all the chopping at once


Use formal setting for silverware – (Left side of plate: Napkin, outside salad fork, inside dinner fork. Across top of plate: Desert spoon or fork, lying horizontally. Right side of plate: Outside spoon, inside knife or knives w/sharp edge pointed in.)
Use cloth napkins
Spread a table cloth or place mats
When serving the appetizer and dessert, put a "charger" dinner plate underneath each person's serving dish
Put on soft music
Light a candle or two
Dim the lights if you can
Serve your food in courses
Eat in a different place – outside, in front of a fireplace
Turn off the telephones!


Stir up a "sparkler" to serve with the appetizer (1 part juice, 1 part Sprite or 7-Up, ice)
Serve crescent rolls with cinnamon orange butter (cream together ½ C butter or margarine at room temperature, 2 Tbsp orange juice, 2 Tbsp brown sugar, ½ tsp cinnamon)
Use soup as a starter course
Use garnishes: parsley for the entrée, raspberries for the dessert, etc.

And to top it off, lay a single rose on his or her plate.

This is a night for memories. Dress up. Don't spoil the mood by being practical. Conversation is a key element. Talk about good things. Talk about wishes. Talk about dreams and plans for the future.

This is your special night, and you both deserve it. Who knows where the night may end? Salud!

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Katherin Scott, The Dating Coach, author and speaker coaches worldwide and teaches seminars to help people empower themselves to find love and happiness. Access free downloads, articles, assessments and Katherin's ezine at