"Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all of the barriers within yourself that you have built against it." A Course in Miracles

With Valentine's Day fast approaching, I thought it would be fitting for me to focus in on love and relationships, which is probably the number one reason why people come to see me. They want time frames along with how and where they will find THE ONE. Often times my client just doesn't like the answer because many of the times it has nothing to do with being in the right place at the right time, the right dating site or losing the pesky 10 lbs. Instead it is what I call SOULWORK that needs to be completed.

A year ago I received a phone call from a very distraught young lady in her mid 20s. She went to see a local psychic and was told that she had a horrible curse on her and wouldn't find love unless she allowed her to remove that curse; to the sum of $500. This young lady didn't have that kind of money, but she felt desperate to find her soulmate. Before paying to this other so-called psychic she decided to get a second opinion. There are so many people out there that feed off of people's fears and desperations and I say Buyer Beware. Words are also very powerful and can uplift you or destroy you. I was concerned that this woman was going to hear the fraud's words over and over 'You will not find love' and so I told her that she needed to add some affirmations to her day, everyday, such as 'I am loved' and 'I am with my divine partner.' Wouldn't you know that in two weeks time she started dating a wonderful man and is now engaged. No potions. No spells. Only reprogramming the soul and mind.

You can't find that wonderful person if you don't love yourself. Do daily affirmations. Do some soulwork, which could consist of forgiving those that hurt you in the past or releasing that past resentment that still binds your heart. Write a letter to your angels. Pray. Feel loved. Take action in order to get the stream of love back to flowing.

I don't claim to be cupid, but I will tell you that I will be a guest at three wedding this year - all of which are my clients. All of which believed they couldn't find their Valentine, but they did the soulwork and they succeeded. So whether you are still looking for that perfect person or you are in a relationship that feels stale, know that it doesn't have to be that way. Look within yourself to see what needs to be changed and take action. More times than not, it is because you stopped loving yourself.

Author's Bio: 

There’s no flowing gown. There’s no crystal ball. There’s just Kristy, Psychic Medium and Life Coach.

Kristy’s involvement with the paranormal began at the tender age of 3 when she began playing and speaking regularly with spirits, labeled “imaginary friends” by her parents. This behavior was unacceptable in her household as her family was very religious. This however did not curb her curiosity for the paranormal and the unknown. Being an avid reader, she read everything and anything regarding different religions, the occult and the paranormal. In college, she took psychology and sociology classes and often did papers attempting to debunk paranormal events using scientific theory, however, she was never convinced. She has learned to challenge everything with healthy skepticism (scientific method), and in that process have been blessed and enriched in her spiritual beliefs while abandoning old superstitions that didn’t serve her well or prove valid. Kristy isn’t silent anymore….she has embraced the paranormal with the understanding that these things are just going to happen and are apart of life, apart of her life. Paranormal phenomena are just happenings that require a greater depth of understanding or touch us on a deeper level than normal events.

Today, Kristy is an internationally renowned Psychic Medium. Her clientele ranges from young to old, law enforcement, clergy, politicians, physicians, attorneys, domestic goddesses, metaphysical professionals and celebrities, to every day people. Her dedication and passion to her work is performed with honesty, integrity and humor, which sets her apart from the rest. She has touched the lives of thousands of people giving spiritual guidance and reunited them with their family and friends who have crossed over, in her private sessions (personal, phone and email), workshops and lectures. She has the gift of bringing warmth and love when using her gift of insight to help clear the cobwebs of confusion along with helping people embrace their own intuitive gifts. Not always serious, Kristy has a wicked sense of humor that she likes to bring to her readings.

She's an All American Girl that talks to the dead.