We have an abundance of opportunities to meet other people, a variety of things to do and places to go. In fact, our lives are as congested as our freeways, and we often get stuck and feel like we are not going anywhere, So we try to fill ourselves with a hectic schedule in the hopes that we can fill that void.
We are afraid of quietude, aloneness and inactivity. We even make sure that our kids avoid doing nothing, and we cram their days with ballet classes, tap dancing, gymnastics, riding lessons and birthday parties leaving little or no time to be just be.

To feel fulfilled, we have to be doing something every spare minute of the day. We are on the “do” list all day, judging ourselves by what we do, never stopping for fear that our minds will be “thinking” again.

Every weekend might find us at another workshop, seminar, gathering. Searching, changing, trying everything under the sun. But under all this is a lack of commitment. We get bored and seek something new.

We find it impossible to commit to a practice, a person or even ourselves. So we run here and there, keep busy and never still our minds, until one day we run out of gas. We fear that doing nothing, saying nothing, thinking nothing will disintegrate our persona.

We fail to understand that when we learn to slow down and set aside our responsibilities, pressures, and sensory overload, we begin to experience inner peace. We become more efficient.
Relaxing does not mean recharging. Relaxation isn't something we do willfully. It is something that we allow to happen.
Here is a simplified meditation for beginners. Initially do this just 3 rounds, twice a day. (Exception: If you have health problems, please consult your doctor before attempting any yoga or mediation practice. Do not hold your breath if there is any doubt.)

Sit on the floor (preferably) with your legs crossed and back erect. Close your eyes, take a deep breath (to the count of 7) through your nose, feeling your lungs and abdomen expand. Hold your breath (to the count of 7—do not strain). Exhale slowly through your mouth, (to the count of 7), pulling your abdomen in toward the back of your spine.

There are variations of this breathing/meditation method, but this is the simplest version.
You may feel spacey, so please do not operate any machinery or drive after this. Just relax, enjoy the nothingness for a few minutes. That means, no cell phone or television for a short while. Think you can handle it?

Guys, this is the first step to enjoying marathon sex. You have to be meditate and breathe properly in order to stop the urge to ejaculate. Just master the breath and a few more simple techniques. Then go find a suitable partner.


Author's Bio: 

Chandi Devi has always been involved in the creative arts and mystic arts, which eventually led her to completely immerse herself in the study and practice of tantra. Through the tantric path, the Shakti (goddess energy) awakened in Chandi a profoundly deep and broad passion for the diversity of life's treasures, from spiritual studies to politics to tango and more. Her book, “From Om to Orgasm: The Tantra Primer for Living in Bliss” has been described as “outstanding and has full potential to become a classic reference work”.

Dubbed the “Dear Abby of Tantra”, Chandi writes a question and answer column on tantra/sexuality/spirituality called “OMG!!! to OM” for Om-Times.com and AscendingHearts.info. Additionally, she has written film and television treatments that cloak ageless wisdom under the veil of entertainment and she invites industry people to partner and manifest this vision together with her and create a new paradigm for the 21st century. She can be reached at chandi@humanityhealing.net or www.theworldoftantra.com.