One Sure-Fire Way To Make A Complete Shift In Your Life And Business
Written by Jennifer Ryan, M.Ed., NCC, LPC, Life Coach
Want to get back to the confident and self-fulfilled person you used to be? Wondering how you're going to be a better mom, a better spouse, or a better business leader? If you are stuck in the muck and mire of a situation that is wearing you down, as a result you are feeling anxious, depressed, or hopeless; you might be sabotaging your own efforts to get unstuck.
Yes, what I'm saying is, it's your fault!
Wait, wait! Before you press the delete button on this email, hear me out. Most of us sabotage our efforts to move forward without realizing it. We are on autopilot. Busy with the everydayness of life – going to work, caring for the kids, trying to make quota – we clutter our mind and life with "must dos" when in reality, they might best be changed to “must-don’ts!”
If you're like most people, you have great intentions about moving forward, improving your business, strengthening your relationship or being a better parent. But if you aren't doing or getting what you want from your life, there is a reason, and plain and simple, you need to get out of your own way.
"It's not you, it's me
It is easier to blame our boss, our spouse, our kids, our cat, our schedule, or anything else we can think of, on our problems. But by blaming exte
al factors for what is happening in our lives we make ourselves powerless. We can't create the change needed to get unstuck. How can you have the life you want if you are completely out of control? Sure, some things are not within your power, but everything you think, feel and do, is all yours.
Taking responsibility for your own life can sometimes be a difficult endeavor. However, it is important to know that you are in the driver's seat. You have choices!
You are in control of your life, good and bad. Therefore, no matter what is happening right now, whether you feel stuck in a dead end job, or struggling to make your marriage work, you have the choice and the responsibility to choose change. You owe it to yourself.
It's all in your head...
There is one thing you can start doing today that will help change your ways. You must take inventory of your mindset.
Is your dominating thinking pattern one of scarcity or one of abundance? A scarcity mindset means focusing on what you DON'T have as opposed to what you DO have, resulting in feeling hopeless, lonely, and powerless. Think about it… Do you find yourself complaining on a regular basis about what you don't want, don't have, and can't have? Are those around you pretty negative?
With an abundant mindset, you feel excited and powerful, with choices. You are able to focus on the overflowing resources or opportunities. You feel empowered and confident that you have more than enough.
There are no limits to what you can achieve, have, or dream. An abundant mindset allows your inner strengths and passions to come to the surface without self-limiting patterns, such as skepticism, fear, and doubt getting in the way.
Hey, Shifty
Change your mindset by shifting your mindset from scarcity to abundance. Engage in positive thinking and positive feeling.
Ok, ok, I know you've heard this before. I know its very cliché. But I beg the question: Are you getting what you want from your life, or aren't you? Because if you're not, I bet you're willing to try just about anything. Making that mindset shift is actually the first change truth in changing your life.
Deliberately plant thoughts that make you feel powerful, confident and joyous. By creating a dominating thinking pattern that reflects abundance you will be creating a new reality. You will naturally and effortlessly become unstuck.
Now What?
To decide what you want, take 2 minutes and write out what you want to create in your life. Imagine yourself five years form now. You run into an old friend, and the friend says, “Hey, how are you? Long time no see, it’s been so long! How are you? What have you been up to?” What do you answer?
If after completing this exercise you have a great plan for your life or business, but no real action plan to get the ball moving, seriously consider changing your mindset. This is the foundation you’ll need to make an immediate shift in your life and business.
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