We receive many inquiries from people agonizing
over the choice between staying in an unhappy,
unsatisfying relationship or leaving and potentially
being alone. The majority of them are more
worried about being alone for the rest of their lives
and because of this, remain stuck in their
relationships.

There are other options, as we outline below,
especially if you are willing to view your situation
from a more spiritual perspective.

Case study problem #1:
“When I was 25 I met the love of my life, John, yet
he broke up with me after 2 years. We remained
best friends and the affair never really ended. I
always compared everyone to him, and he always
came back to me when in trouble. Eventually, we
got back together. I’ve caught him cheating four
times in the last three years and I don’t know if I
can take it again, but the idea of being on my own
seems worse to me....”

Traditional thinking and solution:
Turn a blind eye to your partner’s infidelities and
be grateful you have someone in your life. You’ve
invested all this time together and it would be a
shame to throw it all away.

Alternative Suggestion:
You are allowing him to continue to disrespect you
because you’re afraid to be alone. Though your
situation is karmic, it’s in your best interest to use
your f.ree will to react compassionately. Take back
your power, be strong, and bow out. You will be
f.ree to work on yourself and eventually meet
someone who is more respectful and compatible.

How much time you’ve invested with each other
is never a good reason to stay together, especially
if he’s betraying your trust. Look at it this way,
the spiritual (most important) reasons for
relationships are about learning, understanding,
and growth; how long they last is irrelevant. Many
people place great importance on the length of a
relationship, but if it’s done it’s done, even if a
couple stays together. Besides, as soon as he
betrayed your trust, the relationship died as you
knew it. As far as him being the love of your life,
you don’t know that for sure until the end of your
life.

Alternative Suggestion:
If you can’t live without him (and you probably
can), redefine the relationship and tell him his
actions have shown you that he cannot or will not
be monogamous. Since the problem with cheating
is ultimately more about dishonesty than s.e.x (other
than insecurity about the loss of a partner or fear
of disease), your relationship may work, in a
different form, if he is willing to be brutally honest
when he feels like straying, and does so safely and
responsibly. But you would need to be very adult-
like in how you handle his confessions, and it’s
likely that he would not be able to handle you
dating other people. Both of you seeing this all
from a spiritual perspective (everyone has many
soul mates, no one owns anyone, s.e.x is not love
and doesn’t have to be exclusive to traditional love
relationships, s.e.x purely for the enjoyment of s.e.x
between two consenting adults is perfectly
acceptable, etc.) would also help a lot.

Case study problem #2:
“I didn’t automatically ‘click’ with my boyfriend
Jason, yet we shared a world view, and we ended
up moving in together and building a life. He’s the
most loving and genuine man I’ve ever met, yet I
often think about the bond I had with a previous
lover that doesn’t seem to be there with Jason. I’ve
considered ending it, but I don’t want to be alone
and I worry that perhaps I’m asking for too much,
and running after a dream that isn’t real...”

Traditional thinking and solution:
You can’t have everything in a relationship, and
you should feel lucky that you’ve found a good
person to be with.

Alternative Suggestion:
Though it’s good to realize that “Prince Charming”
or the perfect partner does not exist, your
attraction to Jason is based on your logical mind
reasoning about why you should like him, should
be attracted to him, and should feel that connection
with him.

But as you know, you don’t feel that connection
with him. It’s either there, or it isn’t, and between
you two, it’s not. This is not your fault or his, it
just is what is. Perhaps you cite a fear of hurting
his feelings as the reason why you don’t break up
with him. After all, he is such a nice guy.

Think of your situation this way: you are being
selfish. Breaking up with him would be doing him
a favor; he would be available for someone more
compatible with whom he would share that special
connection that you two don’t have. The
comprehensive numerology and astrology natal
and timing charts, along with psychic insight, tell
us you both are better off as friends.

If you are unhappily involved or single and fear
being alone it’s within your power and your f.ree
will to learn to love your time alone. But first you
must confront the fear of solitude and discover its
origins. Even if past lives are just metaphors in
your subconscious mind, regression therapy can
help, as can meditation.

Copyright © Scott Petullo, Stephen Petullo

Author's Bio: 

Scott Petullo and Stephen Petullo are identical twins and have been exploring metaphysics since the early 1980’s. They are experts in the fields of prediction, personal fate, love life, and past life regression, and are natural psychics and mediums. Get their free report: 13 Spiritual and New Age Myths and 11 Questions to Ask Before Hiring a Psychic. http://www.mystictwins.com http://www.holisticmakeover.com