Life experience and relationships are about personal responsibility and choice. If we want life to give us more joy and fulfillment, we probably need to make new life changes and wiser choices. The old axiom" If you keep doing what you've always done, you'll keep getting what you've always gotten" is as true today as ever it was.

If you don't step up, embrace personal responsibility for what happens in your life, and make some conscious, character-enhancing changes, nothing in your life will change for the better. If you are not growing, inevitably, you must be regressing, because energy is always moving in one direction or the other. So consider some strategies for creating small shifts of mindfulness that will generate real change for your highest good this year, and allow the good to manifest for you.

Do you have a vision for who you want to be at the end of the year? What aspects of your character must improve for you to become the improved and expanded version of yourself that you envision?

If you want a loving and meaningful intimate relationship but have not yet met the love of your life, what kind of person would you have to become to attract the quality of lover you desire? You must embody at least to some extent, the qualities and characteristics of the perfect lover you desire, to empower the match attraction. And if you are already in a relationship, the same principles apply.

Create a vision of your perfect love, and then love that vision into your reality. In the movie, "Australia", the young part aboriginal boy, embodying the mysterious wisdom of his magnificent ancient heritage, says to his mother mentor, as he leaves her, "I will sing you to me". Well, do the same with your true love as you attract them with your love, and say "My love, I sing you to me". Love is magnetic.

How can you improve your kindness, sensitivity, generosity, understanding, spirituality and physical attractiveness? Consider the qualities you want in your partner, assess if you possess them and to what degree, then decide what you can do to make yourself more attractive to your potential lover by fostering those special qualities in yourself first.

Like attracts like, and in relationships, your capacity not only to love, but to love unconditionally, will determine the kind of partnership you will naturally and effortlessly attract. Work on yourself and the universe must respond to the same degree.

Do you want to improve a love relationship which you already share with your special other? Improve and expand your capacity to love, care for and give pleasure and see what amazing response you evoke in your partner. Unconditional love, non-judgment, loving even when your partner tests your patience, and creating fun, playfulness and laughter, will pave the way for a happy and delightful relationship.

If you want to improve other areas of your life this year, step up and take full responsibility for yourself. Become the kind of person who will merit attracting what you want to manifest and experience in your life.

If you want more financial security, allow the flow of abundance in your life. Money is energy and must flow. One of the most powerful ways to open the floodgates of abundance is to be grateful for the abundance you already experience. Abundance surrounds us everywhere; we simply need to focus our attention in the here and now to notice the richness surrounding us.

Life is always an inside job. Change the inner, and the outer will correspond accordingly. Life is what you make it. This time around, and from today onwards, make your life absolutely fabulous. It's your decision. Choose love; choose joy; choose abundance and always, believe in your vision!

Author's Bio: 

Marie C. Barrett, author, teacher and holistic spiritual life coach, is working for the transformation of consciousness on the planet. To establish balance and holistic wealth creation in all areas of your life go to and see Marie's blog at