Different Emotions and Lack of Self-confidence

How did it feel the last time you were criticized, rejected or dumped?

Mostly anyone would feel bad on going through any of the previous situations. A normal reaction, one that many people have, is to do their best to find out what was wrong with them. They double check their looks in the mirror, ask their close friends for their opinions and take note of peoples' reaction to your presence.

The Never-Ending Quest

Some people spend months looking for these answers, others spend years, but most of them never reach anything. They just keep searching forever, and even though they may find some clues, as soon as some new event happens, their clues are usually insufficient to convince them of their own merit and so they try to search for other ones.

The quest for making sure of whether you are ugly, uninteresting or boring has no end. Whatever you do to find the answers, new situations and occurances will force you to seek more answers, ensuring that you will never reach anything conclusive in the end, because the only place you can find these answers is within yourself.

The Answers Lie Within

So, if you can’t really get an exact answer to your questions, what can you do?
Once thing you can do is evaluate yourself and then live using that evaluation. Go and grab a pen and paper and describe yourself, write down your strengths and your weaknesses, write down what you like about yourself and what you hate about yourself, but most importantly, be honest with yourself. Take your time doing this, it's fine to take days or even weeks to complete this evaluation because upon completing it, it will be your new idea about yourself and your eternal judgement of yourself.

By doing so you will never find yourself running after pieces of information that you will never be able to get, you won't feel bad on being rejected, you won't feel that broken if you were dumped by someone and won't feel down if you were criticized. This is because all these negative feelings occur as a result of one thing: not being sure whether you are good or bad, complete or incomplete, worthy or unworthy. By writing down the answers, your subconscious mind will give up trying to seek clues from the outside world to support your doubts. Don’t waste your time, go and write down the eternal judgement and don't be a slave to searching for meaningless answers.

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