Sizzling Sex Life: 5 Spicy Practices For Making Love Hot

We all know it happens: A few years (or sometimes a few months!) into a relationship, sex can get boring, even with a partner that you still love in your heart. Like boiling away the flavor from a stick of cinnamon, you may find that the “heat” has evaporated from the bedroom.

But don’t toss out that relationship! With the right technique, you may still be able to get some spice back into your sex life.

1. Change the environment. Making love in the same place, at the same time, encourages you to do the same thing over and over again. You can have sex in a new place, like the kitchen or the shower. Or, you can change the bedroom in some way, like painting it, getting some fresh bedding, or hanging a new piece of art. Your mind doesn’t care too much what you do, just that it’s something different.

2. Change the position. If you always go through the same three positions every time you have sex, you’re going to get tired of them sometime. If you enjoy those positions, how about changing the order in which you perform them? Or try using pillows and experimenting with different angles. You never know just what might hit a new great spot for one or both of you.

3. Just add water. Ever try adding water to your lovemaking? You can have sex with water added in a lot of different ways, from sensual to silly. The most obvious is to make love in the shower or tub, if it’s big enough for both of you. You could also try using water in ice form to make sex interesting. Try holding an ice cube in your teeth, using it to gently touch your partner’s skin. Or hold a cube in your fingers and rub a little more firmly. And how about using water guns on each other—naked, of course!

4. Let’s pretend. Admit it, you do have sexual fantasies. And even though you may not want to play them out exactly as they are in your mind, you could certainly try bits and pieces. There’s no reason to make your fantasies so literal in real life.

For example, you could pretend that there’s someone in the closet watching. Or use crepe paper ties for fun. Add a prop like a pirate’s hat or fishnet stockings. Use your imagination and have a bit of a giggle. After all, there’s no rule that sex always has to be so serious.

5. Toys. Some people think that toys like vibrators are just used to help women along to orgasm. But there are lots and lots of toys out there for both sexes. Trying out a new toy together can be a lot of fun. You can surprise your partner with a new toy, or you can go shopping together, either at a toy shop or online.

Don’t settle for vanilla when you can have any “flavor” of sex that you can imagine! Enjoy!