Changing the atmosphere of the room where you are going to make love brings magic to your union. It helps elevate regular sex to extraordinary and sacred sex.

Time for Exercise: 15 minutes

Properties Required: candles, romantic music, plants or fresh flowers, beautiful pieces of fabric, tasty eats and drinks, incense, sensual objects


  1. Make sure the room is tidy—floor swept, laundry out of sight, surfaces dusted.
  2. Together, in silence, with your attention focused on making your space beautiful and safe for each other, move slowly and purposefully to arrange the room.
  3. Cover hard edges and objects you don’t want to see—for example a TV set—with soft fabrics.
  4. Arrange plants, flowers, and beautiful objects around the room.
  5. Light candles or change regular light bulbs to red, pink, or magenta bulbs.
  6. Set close to hand any massage oils, lubricants, or sex toys you might want to employ.
  7. Light incense or heat essential oil diffusers for sensual aroma.
  8. Turn on your mood music.
  9. Bring in special food and drink treats for sharing with your lover.
  10. When you’ve arranged the space to your satisfaction, stand side by side, hold hands, and appreciate the transformation of your room.
  11. Look into each other’s eyes and softly invite each other to play in your sacred space (see Permission Please).


Be on the lookout during your daily life for things you can use when you make your sacred space—fabric remnants, sensual books, appealing objects. Start a collection, so that when you want to create a beautiful room for a special lovemaking time, everything you want is handy. Each time you make your space, arrange things differently, add or change items, so that it remains new and free.

Excerpted from our new book Sensual Love Secrets for Couples: The Four Freedoms of Body, Mind, Heart and Soul, by Al Link and Pala Copeland, Llewellyn, 2007

Author's Bio: 

Al Link and Pala Copeland own and operate 4 Freedoms Relationship Tantra. They regularly host lover’s romantic weekends near Ottawa Canada, and weeklong retreats in exotic locations. For more information call toll free from Canada or USA: 1-800-684-5308 International long distance: 1-819-689-5308. Visit their websites, and their blog or send email: They have four books published including Soul Sex: Tantra for Two, New Page, 2003; The Complete Idiot's Guide to Supercharged Kama Sutra, Penguin, 2007; Sensual Love Secrets for Couples: The Four Freedoms Body, Heart, Mind and Soul, Llewellyn 2007; Tantra Step by Step: 28 Days to Ecstasy, Llewellyn 2007.