It would be reassuring if all energetic phenomena were benign, but we know that there are energies that are not friendly, that are actually dangerous. Opening completely to your lover emotionally, spiritually, and energetically in ecstatic union can make you vulnerable to the influence of unfriendly energies. This simple psychic protection ritual cleanses your sacred lovemaking space and keeps you safe, so you can surrender completely without fear or limitations of any kind.

Time for Exercise: five minutes

Properties Required: none


  1. Circle the room three times in a counterclockwise direction (for dispersal), rotating your left arm counterclockwise and your right arm clockwise.
  2. At the same time speak out loud, naming any negative energies or emotional states you do not welcome into your sacred loving space, e.g., “Out with fear. Out with judgment. Out with energy-sucking entities.” In this way you are helping to clear out any negative energies that might be present and forbidding any new ones to enter.
  3. Reverse direction, circling around the room three times clockwise (for building energy). Rotate your left arm clockwise and your right arm counterclockwise.
  4. At the same time, speak out loud, naming the energies and entities that you do want to be present in your sacred loving space, e.g., “In with love. In with mystery. In with angels.” These actions welcome in desirable energies and emotional states.


You can also use noisemakers or musical instruments to accompany you as you move around the room. For example, Al and Pala’s favorite is a Tibetan singing bowl, but others include drums, spoons, horns, and stringed instruments.

Excerpted from our new book Sensual Love Secrets for Couples: The Four Freedoms of Body, Mind, Heart and Soul, by Al Link and Pala Copeland, Llewellyn, 2007

Author's Bio: 

Al Link and Pala Copeland own and operate 4 Freedoms Relationship Tantra. They regularly host lover’s romantic weekends near Ottawa Canada, and weeklong retreats in exotic locations. For more information call toll free from Canada or USA: 1-800-684-5308 International long distance: 1-819-689-5308. Visit their websites, and their blog or send email: They have four books published including Soul Sex: Tantra for Two, New Page, 2003; The Complete Idiot's Guide to Supercharged Kama Sutra, Penguin, 2007; Sensual Love Secrets for Couples: The Four Freedoms Body, Heart, Mind and Soul, Llewellyn 2007; Tantra Step by Step: 28 Days to Ecstasy, Llewellyn 2007.