Stop Complaining

Mark is a handsome guy. He earns an income most people drool over, has a beautiful girl-friend, lives in a squeaky clean Denver suburb neighborhood and drives a 7 series BMW E38. Most people look over Mark with a degree of respect, some with a degree of envy. “Wish I could live like him”, what does he do different?” etc are the usual go-around gossip about him. Isn’t this the life that you would want for yourself? Hell yea!!! We all want to lead a life just like that. But wait….just before you allow your fantasies to get the better of you….I might as well tell you a few things that most people don’t know about Mark. He is one hell of a complainer!!! The day begins with a cup of coffee and a daily newspaper. “Oofff what is with the gas prices???” “Cant we have a little less crime??? Granted he has a beautiful girlfriend, but can she stand up to his yammering? Is it necessary to go shopping today, you look awkward, Why did you put on that yellow dress? What kind of a dish is that? Who was that guy you were with on Saturday? Your friend Betty is one good talker isn’t she… and also….. why must the real estate prices go up when I’ am just ready to buy a new piece of land? That mortgage problem sure does stop the good people from buying good houses doesn’t it? All this is just to keep it short. It seems that in his seemingly great life, dissatisfactions reign supreme. What looks never is, and it holds true here. If we look into ourselves then we can all see a Mark in all of us. We all have all that we could possibly need yet we are driven by some unseen force towards remaining dissatisfied with whatever we have. A little insight should clear things up here. When we express our dissatisfaction we generally do so in the hopes of wanting more than what is. Right? Well if more is what we want then it can be safe to say that even if we do get to that perfect place where we wish, our devious mind will concoct an even better place and then we wish that for once, just once we could be there, once we get there…repeat. I don’t know about you but to me it seems more like a vicious cycle of never ending unhappiness rather than a joyful experience. Our friend Mark seems to be caught up in just one such dilemma. Many people will mistake this for development, while forgetting that development happens so that we may ultimately become satisfied not remain wretched and poor all our lives. I know many people will ask if we stop complaining will we ever develop. Isn’t all progress essentially rooted in dissatisfaction? The answer is yes progress does happen because of dissatisfaction with the current state of things, but it can also be powered by finer elements of the human personality, like creativity, curiosity and love. The truth is no one need raise a finger on any one telling them their versions of perfection when they themselves are filled with much the same defects. Neither you nor me can openly claim “look at me – I’ am perfect!!!” at least not without a good dose of laughter from the audience! Every one has defects and problems but should you choose to focus on those defects and problems then all you end up creating is more defects and problems. Focus on the good inside of you, the good that surrounds you, and the good in other people…and oh yes the good in the newspapers, magazines and TV too! Remember you become what you think about (as said by every known philosopher and thinker!). So if you choose to focus on problems then for all practical reasons, you are a walking talking problem yourself, this is amply demonstrated in the lives of those people who complain. Their peers will identify them as just that – a problem. If on the other hand you should choose to focus on all the good that surrounds you, point out the good in other people, in your world, and in your friends then you will become just that – good!nn In the end your focus determines everything. To all those who complain just try to reassign your focus on something good. Praise instead of complain, laugh instead of despairing. Once you start doing this you will realize that the perfect world that you always wanted was always around you. All that was needed was you to put on a clean pair of glasses to see it better with! For more stories and articles on love and relationships visit http://www.sincerityseekers.com/love-story.aspxn