Losing weight is one of the most popular goals people set. Why? Simply because hardly anyone sets this goal and achieves it. The weight just keeps coming back, and they wonder why.

The human nature is built to protect and conserve what is theirs. When you lose something, your natural instinct is to get it back. When you set a goal to lose weight, your innate ability residing deep within your unconscious mind immediately picks up the need to recover what is lost. And there you go... the weight you just lost painstakingly finds its way back in the easiest manner.

Think back at how you have set goals in the past. Chances are you have set them in the same manner year in, year out. You have been doing the same thing over and over again, but you are not seeing the results you want. I think it was Einstein who said that to do the same thing over and over and expecting a different result is insanity.

In order to achieve a goal, firstly you need to understand why you need a goal. You need a goal because life without a goal is aimless, meaningless and you’ll drift through life hoping and wishing and dreaming, and then one day it’s time to go and you wonder what your life was all about.

You have a choice. You can either be a wondering generality or a meaningful specific. 95% of the people in the world are wondering generalities. They don’t know where they’re going. As a matter of fact they don’t even know whether they are coming or going. And one day it’s too late and it’s time to go.

Most people tiptoe through life hoping they’ll make it safely to death. You need to move away from a wondering generality to a meaningful specific. What does that mean? That means that you have a purpose. You have a direction. You have a reason why you do what you do every single day. You have a reason to wake up in the morning. You have a reason to exist. That’s more than what 95% of the people in the world could say about their lives.

Why does a goals help you move from a wondering generality to a meaningful specific? There are two reasons. The first reason is the mind is teleological, meaning that it is target-seeking. The mind is forever looking for a target. The mind must have a target to hit. If you don’t give it a target, someone else will set a target for you. The environment will set a target for you. Circumstances will set a target for you.

So you might as well decide and give your mind a target or it’s going to pick one from the environment. It may not be a target that you want. It may not be in a direction which you want to head. But the mind must at every moment have something to hit at. That is why some people live their entire life achieving somebody else’s dreams, and then they say their life is frustrating, meaningful, insignificant, and meaningless.

The second thing we need to understand is that in the human personality there exists what is called the psycho-cybernetic mechanism. "Psycho" simply means "mind" and "cybernetic" means "steersman". There is something in our unconscious mind that guides us, that drives us to a certain direction. This steersman decides where we go in life. How does he know where to go in life? How does he decide? He decides based on the map that he is holding in his hand. On this map are the directions of your life, where you will go in every area of your life.

How do we put these coordinates on the map? By deciding on the goals and writing down the goals. Many people say, "I have it in my head". No, no, no! If you do not have your goal in writing, you do not have a goal. You have to write the goal down because writing causes thinking. Thinking creates pictures in your mind. Pictures are the secret language of the mind. The picture in your mind helps set the coordinates that will determine where you go in life.

Author's Bio: 

Liza Othman owns a personal development website, SuccessEsource.com. More about how to achieve goals in all 8 areas of your life at Goals.SuccessEsource.com