You are probably totally unaware how much lack of self awareness affects your life and the outcomes you are creating.

For most of us life unfolds lacking direction, since we have not yet learned to control and direct our inner world, or thoughts consciously and purposefully.

Success in life depends on your ability to be happy with life, and your ability to be happy with your lot depends to a large extend on the way you see the world. How you see your world is dependent upon your level of development, or I could also say your cognitive awareness.

Yet, paradoxically enough, most of us do whatever we can to STOP our growth, instead of doing the things that would help us to move on in our lives.

We cling to the old status quo, even when we know that our present circumstances are not making us happy, let alone create solutions to our many predicaments.

Some of us have invented amazingly complex coping mechanisms to manipulate our conscious minds into believing the old fairy tales with which we keep indoctrinating ourselves non stop.

Unlearning everything you have learned about your reality and all those things you believe to be "real" is a challenge and yet it is the only way to freedom and happiness. In other words if you want financial independence, and emotional freedom you will have to understand how the cosmos and you really work.

The tools to make this process much easier are readily available if you are serious about personal growth. EFT, Emotional Freedom Technique is one such tool. It is very versatile and can be used to clear emotional stuff and expand your awareness.

Clearing your mind of all those problems, issues from the past, hurts and traumas which you mistakenly believe have an influence on your future, is the very first step you should take if you are serious about growing and getting to know the "real" you.

Please don't misunderstand me. I am not saying that there is no suffering, that there are no problems, particularly at the moment, where many of us are feeling the harsh winds of change blowing through every corner and which are affecting all facets of our existence.

I am saying though that much of our pain derives from a flawed view of the universe and ultimately ourselves. Once you have worked through the rubble in your mind,(your old conditioning), which is blocking your view of your real self you will gain access to a new powerhouse within in you.

Getting to that point does not happen over night and it requires systematic work. But it can be done, I assure you, because I have done it myself.

This is the purpose of this article: To help you understand your reality better so that you can create success from an inner harmony that only comes from seeing yourself how you really are: The good, the bad and the ugly. All these different aspects, as I have said many a time before, are only different aspects of the same coin.

Only you keep insisting, that you want only the good things. You believe that just thinking positively will get you only positive results. Positive psychology has definitely its place, but it is not helpful in understanding your reality and ultimately your real nature. Hence in the long run positive psychology will not get you the results you are looking for.

Concentrating just on the pretty stuff is empty fluff and not worthy of the word personal development. It will also draw you further away from reality and growing, because you will be developing a very lopsided view of your reality. It is rather like seeing only the blue sky without acknowledging that rain and snow, just like death and sorrow also have their role in this cosmic game.

The more you can see of the bigger picture the more you will be able to connect to the deepest power within you, which is the power of the cosmos.

To the very best of my knowledge and after many years of studying Buddhist teachings and the reality of our existence it is this realization that will bring you harmony and happiness.

Author's Bio: 

Mercedes Oestermann van Essen is a spiritual success coach coach and author. Please visit to find out more about Mercedes' work