A fortunate group of people get to the moment in their life where they consciously decide to procreate, go at it and the miracle happens. Many of us get pregnant first and then consider the consequences. While some couples prefer to take a completely relaxed approach to the business of baby-making, leaving their reproductive fate in the hands of Mother Nature, not everyone is willing or able to surrender quite that much control. Some of us want a child so much that, if the conception doesn’t quite happen in a timely manner, we go on a path of scheduled intercourse, medical intervention, frustration, mood swings all of which can strain not only our sexual relationship, but our lives in general.

The creation and birth of a human life is a high sacrament and should be embraced as such. When a new life is created, the whole Universe must shift to make room. Another expression of “God” has manifested itself, and this life has the potential of becoming a world leader, a teacher, and a saint. The concepts that conscious creation and joyful birth are sacred rituals have been forgotten in modern life, but we can remember and embrace the miraculous.

There are several steps that are needed in order to reach our goals. We cannot go from A to Z without first going through B, C, and D. Owning up and asking ourselves why we feel this is the right time to procreate, is the first step toward what I call Conscious Procreation. As it is hard to explain why we fall in love with another person, often it is hard to describe exactly why we want to have a child. It is a “burning desire” or, “you feel, you are simply ready for it.” One thing we know for sure is that it is a gut feeling and desire. While it is true that most things that are so heavily emotional are often indescribable, we still have the responsibility of another human life in our hands. If we are willing to ask ourselves some very frank questions, and are ready to own up to the real reason why we want to procreate, we can clear the pathway to a healthy, honest and loving relationship with our child.

I work with couples to help them welcome the new soul into their lives, consciously, joyfully, and effortlessly.

Here are a few helpful suggestions

Know thy cycle
The more you know about your menstrual cycle, the easier it will be for you to pinpoint your most fertile days. You may find it useful to start keeping a menstrual calendar, noting the day on which your period starts, the day when it ends, any pre-ovulatory symptoms you notice, and so on; and to learn how to monitor your three key fertility signals: the quantity and quality of your cervical mucus (you're most fertile when your mucus is abundant and egg white in texture), the position and feel of your cervix (it's located high in the vagina and is soft and fleshy during your most fertile days) and fluctuations in your basal body temperature (your temperature will jump once ovulation has occurred).

Make love on the right days
This may sound like a no-brainer, but mistimed procreation can wreak havoc on your plans to conceive. You're at your most fertile during the five days leading up to and the 12 hours following ovulation. If you miss this window of opportunity, it's game over for another month.

Have unbelievably great sex
This is one part of the procreation prescription you won't mind filling! While it may sound too good to be true, there seems to be some hard science to back up this bit of advice. Researchers have found that a suction effect is created when the female partner achieves orgasm, something that causes the cervix to draw sperm into the vagina more efficiently. Since this can help to transport sperm from the highly acidic vaginal environment as quickly as possible, it may help to ensure the survival of the maximum number of sperm.

Don't get too much of a good thing
Not only can attempting to make love each day during your most fertile period be physically and mentally draining: it doesn't do much to increase your odds of conceiving. And if your partner has a marginal sperm count, your doctor is likely to recommend an "every other day" procreation regime anyway.

Create a sperm-friendly vaginal environment
Avoid vaginal sprays, scented tampons and artificial lubricants, all of which may interfere with your procreation plans.

Don't hop out of bed right away. While it's not necessary to elevate your bottom with pillows or go to other extreme measures to give the sperm a head start, it's a good idea to remain in a horizontal position for at least five minutes after you've finished making love. After all, gravity is a pretty formidable adversary for sperm.

Remember that conception is a number's game. You can do everything "right," but still not manage to conceive the first time around. Studies have shown that it takes normal, fertile couples an average of six months to conceive, and most doctors consider anything up to one year to be well within the range of normal.

When you enter our treatment, you will be given a seven days Tantric ritual in which sexuality and spirituality come together to welcome the new soul into this world.

Author's Bio: 

Giuditta Tornetta is a birth and post-partum doula, a lactation educator, a hypnotherapist and author of the upcoming book: Joy In Birthing: Daily Inspirations for a Natural and Painless Childbirth. She has a private practice in Los Angeles and can be reached through her website at or call 310-435-6054