What Causes Women To Leave Men - Part 1

Why do women leave men?

Interesting question, isn't it?

We've all had women leave us...

And we've all been in the situation, wondering why she was leaving... and willing to do literally anything to get her to stay.

Read the following scenarios, and nod your head silently if you can identify with one of them:nn- You met an incredible woman, and you really hit it off at the beginning. But the more time you spent with her, the less interested she became... but the more interested you became. You could feel the balance of power shifting, but there was nothing you could do about it. Eventually she just stopped seeing you, but she never explained why in a way that made any sense...nn- You were seeing a woman for several months, maybe even a year or so. Everything seemed fine. But then one day she came to you and said, "I don't know how I feel anymore, and I just need some time alone... some time to 'find myself'... it's not you, it's me"... but, her time "alone "turned into her seeing some other guy that didn't treat her half as well as you did...nn- You were in a serious long-term relationship that had lasted more than a couple of years, and you were with the woman you thought you'd spend the rest of your life with. Sure, you had your problems, but you knew that you'd always worknthrough whatever came up, and she would stick by your side forever. Out of nowhere, she started acting strange... she started to become more controlling and angry... no matter how hard you tried to make her feel better and do nice things, it only got worse. They she dropped the bomb that she didn't love you anymore, and she was leaving. Or maybe she cheated on you, then told you as her way of breaking up...of course, there are a million variations of these basic situations, but I'll bet you can identify with one of them. I can identify with ALL of them. In fact, I've been through each of them... some more than once.

And I'll tell you... I can remember the pain and the desperatio
I felt each time. I mean, it sucked. I hated it.

Probably the worst part of it was the feeling of powerlessness that went along with each time. It's bad enough having the woman you like or love leave you... but to have to also deal with the fact that you don't know how to change things, and there's nothing you can do about it is just plain depressing.

Again, if you've been there, nod silently with me...

Now let's talk about how to AVOID this kind of thing in the future.

THE PROBLEM ISN'T WHAT YOU THINK

The first thing you must realize in this type of situation is that the problem you're dealing with isn't what you THINK it is.

Most guys naturally assume that the woman is leaving them because he's not being "nice" enough, or he's not giving her what she wants, or he's notnbeing a good boyfriend... etc.

Or they assume that this is just "one of those things that happens", that "feelings change" and that there's really nothing he could have done anyway.

Well, these ideas, and almost all the others that most guys think, are DEAD WRONG.

So STEP ONE is for you to realize that what you THINK you know is WRONG. Throw it out.

Start over, and open your mind to a new way of seeing things. I'll share more on this later.

YOU CAN'T SOLVE IT WITH MORE OF THE SAME

Now I want to talk about what NOT to do.

I know that this is going to sound pretty obvious, but if what you're doing isn't working in a particular situation, you need to STOP.

Don't keep doing what's not working. In other words, if the woman you love is breaking up with you, and you've been being nice to her, doing whatever she wants, and telling her that you'll do anything to make it better... if only she'll stay... then STOP. Stop doing that.

Whatever it is you're doing that isn't working ISN'T WORKING. Duh.

So stop it immediately.

More of the same is only going to get you more of what is happening.