Ever have anyone ask you that in reference to a new hair color, career move, or big purchase you were considering? How about when you were younger and you were trying on the idea-of-the-moment around "what do you want to be when you grow up?"

Perhaps at one point you thought of becoming a brain surgeon or a trial lawyer. And, perhaps because you were a) female, b) not that academic, or c) not from a family that could afford medical/law school, you might have heard the above cry.

When young it's rare that we stand up to our authority figures--though it does happen--and just go for it. More often we let go of our dreams of becoming a CSI and consider their suggestions of "what's wrong with being a secretary like your aunt?" or "We don't have the money for that so you had better figure out something you can do at the community college."

Now we are adults. How do you respond to a friend, spouse, or co-worker when they scratch their heads and question your sanity? We weigh in with those we trust to see if what we are thinking sounds crazy or courageous, doubtful or doable. We are in a way asking if this new idea seems like the "me you know." "Can you see me doing this and if I did would you still like/love/be-friends-with me," is another way of looking at it.

When the response is "where'd you get that crazy idea?" it doesn't feel particularly good does it? Why? Because we went seeking validation and support for this idea that has been rolling around in our deepest selves for awhile. What we asked for though was the self expression equivalent of "Does this version of me make me look fat?"

Here's something I believe because of the studying I've been doing. (And because the greatest teachers of our times have been telling us this for centuries.)

"If one advances confidently in the direction of their dreams, and endeavors to lead a life which they have imagined, they will meet with a success unexpected in common hours."
Henry David Thoreau

The dreams we have as individuals, no matter how far fetched they look to the rest of the world, are doable by reason of the fact that they are given to us.

David Neagle is a powerful teacher of many aspects of abundant living but mainly about manifesting what you say you want. Not woo woo manifesting like saying I want a Beemer and sitting at home watching the drive way for the day it pulls itself in. David teaches the action steps to achieving or manifesting our dreams, business or personal. But that's another conversation.

I mention David because he made clear for me the concept that our dreams and goals are achievable by us because we have them. Stay with me here.

On a recent teleclass David was talking about the concept of polarity, down/up, fat/thin, rich/poor. We can't have one idea without something to compare it to. Could we say "New York is far from California" if we had never gone from NY to NJ, which feels close by comparison? Would you ever think this (800 sq. ft) house is small if you'd never lived in one that was 1600 sq.ft? "The opposite of a question is the answer." David said, "You couldn't have an idea without the way to do it also being present simultaneously. They're both one and the same."

You may not have the answer at the moment that the question--"how can I get my PhD in psychology when I don't have the money and I work full time?" pops into your head, but the answer, the how, must exist for you because the question is there. You desire it and therefore you can realize it.

"A rock pile ceases to be a rock pile the moment a single man contemplates it, bearing within him the image of a cathedral."
Antoine de Saint-Exupery

No matter how crazy, difficult, impossible something seems initially if it's your dream, your passion, you can find a way to do what it takes to have that experience. How? Do all you can with all you've got right now, knowing that you'll get the next bit of info as you take action. Get support, read, learn, and write down whatever comes to you when you think about this part of you that's burning to come forth, to have expression in your lifetime. Most importantly, don't let listen to the inner or outer voices that would ask, "What Kind of Crazy Idea is That!?"

"If you can dream it, you can do it."

Walt Disney

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Gregory Anne Cox is a certified life coach who has been dishing up all-you-can-eat servings of women's health and nutrition information for years. Her Lifestyle Tune-Up course is a 28 day wonder seminar for women looking for the missing mid-life manual. You can find out more at Live Better Coach, send her an email, or call her at (631) 728-2456. This article is copyrighted and you may feel free to use it as long as you include this paragraph when publishing it.