I want you to know the beauty of life.

I want you to AWAKE, and see that people want to connect with you. I want you to finally realize how desperately you want to connect with other human beings, and then........and then........

To distinguish, to see clearly, the 100 barriers we accidently, and deliberately put up to stop that happening!

At core most of us are raised believing we are bad. Unfortunately, if this is true, we are also surrounded By people feeing the SAME. The fact that intimacy DOES occur on the planet COULD be referred to by some as a miracle. If one scared human being looks like actually getting close to us, the fear of BEING SEEN, and consequently being REJECTED leads to instant barriers. I believe the purpose of life is to find those barriers And bring them down.

But that won't happen today.....

I want you to get to know, how scared you are, and love yourself for it. Then I want you to realize how scared everyone else is, and laugh at the joke. (You walk into a party and head to the kitchen - safe from the scary people! - but they're feeling the same way! It's a joke!) But you won't get to know this - to really know this - today.

I want you to remember with joy the most intimate, Loving experiences of your life, and then imagine them tripled. Imagine them tripled in intensity, and imagine having Them five - times - more - often! (That's FIFTEEN times the intimacy and love for the mathematicians out there). Imagine lying on your death bed, surrounded by loved ones, breathing 'I have truly lived, like few have lived before me'. Imagine them saying at your funeral: 'This woman, or this man, will be remembered for truly opening up to others. For truly seeing people and loving them as they are. And! For first finding out what it took to love her self, so That she could love others.'

Is that all I want? No.

I want you to be so uninhibited by the thinking of others, that self expression becomes the NORM for you! We've been conditioned since the age of TWO......to quash our impulses. Our natural desires are now strained through filters so fine, so powerful, and so automatic, that perhaps -out of TEN, only 1-3 of our natural impulses make it through to the outside world.

Is that possible? Could we be 30% expressed? Who has Ever felt the impulse to hug someone, or kiss someone, or compliment someone, and held back? I had the strong impulse to hug my gardener! But it felt "INAPPROPRIATE". But who knows how she would have felt? Who knows how that could have impacted her whole day, and who she might have hugged? It was a natural desire which never got expressed. Inappropriate. How many INAPPROPRIATES do you have in Your life?

I want you to be so uninhibited by the thinking of others, that self expression becomes the NORM for you!

Is that too much to want? I don't think so. I want it For you. I also want it for myself.

Question: Whatever level of LOVE, INTIMACY and PEACE you have now, WHAT WOULD IT TAKE TO DOUBLE IT!?

And we know that's not going to happen today. We've Had 30, 50 YEARS of conditioning. That won't happen today.

But it can happen - in bursts, and continuously for life.

Author's Bio: 

David Wood is a personal coach, and a Director of CoachCampus - an online coach training company. He asks people “What do you want?? and “What are you doing about it??

He coaches individuals in several countries via e-mail and telephone, and speaks to organisations on topics such as 'Create A Life You Love'.

David specializes in helping women get what they want and deserve from their relationship, and helping new coaches get started in the career of life coaching.

Professional Affiliations: International Coach Federation, National Speakers Association of Australia, Institute of Actuaries of Australia.

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