After many years of being in a love relationship, you might be asking yourself: “Can I have it all?”

It’s a good question and here’s what we find in our experience working with couples….

--A couple may have friendship or compatibility, but little or no passion.

--A person might feel like he or she is taken care of or takes care of the other--physically, emotionally, or financially--but that's the extent of the connection.

--While there might be passion at times, the majority of interaction between the couple is disconnected.

--Although there is a deep feeling of love between the partners, each seems to be going in different directions much of the time lacking passion or connection.

We return to the original question you may ask yourself: “Can I have it all?” Can love, passion, connection and friendship coexist and sustain in one relationship?

We affirm that YOU CAN have it all in one relationship. This is why…

We’ve seen it in other people’s relationships and we actually live it.

So, you may ask again, “How can I have it all in my life?”

We made a decision at the beginning of our relationship that we wanted all of these elements to be part of our life together--love, passion and connection, as well as deep friendship.

From past experiences with other people, we decided that the lack of these elements was more painful than doing what it takes to have it “all.” We made a commitment around this decision.

Our commitment to each other and this decision is so strong that we do whatever we need to do to quickly move out of disconnection to connection. This practice alone continues to re-ignite passion and it keeps our love and friendship vibrant.

So, whether or not you are in a love relationship, we invite you to explore your beliefs about what is possible in a committed, intimate relationship.

Do your beliefs about the possibility of enjoying love, passion, connection and friendship serve you?

Beliefs that don’t serve you may link to past experiences that prevent you from hoping for something better. You might feel like you’ve gone from one “unsuccessfull” relationship to the next. Or, you might be in a “successful” relationship but want something more.

Regardless of what you discover, we invite you to open up to the possibility that it is possible for you to have what you want.
We encourage you to live your life to its fullest, most positive potential!

Author's Bio: 

Susie and Otto Collins are Relationship Coaches and authors who are passionate about helping people create lives that are filled with more passion, love and connection. For more tips on rekindling passion in your love relationship, visit