In the Western World, trauma is mostly seen as psychological impact but there is actually a different view on trauma that not many people do not know about or understand.

One of the most common approaches to healing trauma is to have someone to talk to so that you can be heard and feel understood and supported. That is very important because it can make you feel better and enable you to move on, however, it does not clear out your trauma.

Another approach to healing trauma is to get in touch with yourself by getting into your emotion, releasing it, and undergoing a really cathartic experience. You can get in touch with your rage and anger and allow yourself to feel the emotions and act them all out, and while this may feel good for a while, it doesn’t bring lasting change, and I am speaking from experience.

The reason why these approaches and several others do not work is because when trauma happens, it is not just a psychological impact. It is literally a physical and an energetic impact. Think of your physical makeup like so – you have a soul, you have a spirit, you have a body, and you have a nervous system inside of your body. Life and life energy comes into you through each of these components and makes you feel alive through flowing freely through you and your nervous system. Your senses are connected to your nervous system and you are feeling and experiencing the world through your senses so that when you experience trauma, especially as child at an early age, you cannot handle it. For example, if you try to blow too much electricity through a cable that is not wired for it, it will cause short circuits, just as trauma will cause short circuits in one’s nervous system. Therefore, the energy that used to flow freely through you as child comes to a halt and gets stuck in your physicality and in your body and because it feels too horrible to be in the body anymore, we unconsciously leave our bodies.

So, when you experience trauma, you leave your body, the energy gets stuck in the nervous system, and you can’t really live freely and experience life as you could before. This different view on trauma focuses on the energetic and physical impact and in order to release it, you have to work that pathway. While talking, having a support, and getting in touch with your emotions is good, it will ultimately not release the trauma from your nervous system. In order to do this, it is really important for you to re-inhabit your body and there are several, gentle ways that you can do this without reliving the trauma. It is really more about being here in the now, learning to feel again and using all your senses so that you can slowly but surely “thaw” the frozen energy from your nervous system and release it.

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Author's Bio: 

I am 33 years old, and I have spent more then half my life both learning and teaching about love.
In Germany, where I am originally from, I am both a Naturopathic doctor and Humanistic Psychotherapist. I have been involved in the field of Personal Development for more than 18 years.

I conduct workshops in the United States and Germany, as well as work with clients on a one-to-one basis. I am publishing a book on the subject of healing early sexual trauma, which will be released early next year.

But that’s not what makes me an expert on love, intimacy and relationships. That comes out of my own childhood experiences.

Beginning at the age of eleven, I suffered from immense “soul pain” for over 12 years.
Today, I now know that most of this pain was caused by early sexual abuse, which I had no memory of until relatively recently. The result of the trauma resulting from early sexual abuse was that I suffered from serious eating disorders, addictive behavior, co-dependent relationships and depression.

I basically felt “broken” for most of my life, and I desperately and continually needed to do something in order to not feel the pain.

At the age of twenty-one, I finally had what I now call my “Toilet-Wake-Up-Moment”. It was an epiphany, a moment when time stood still, and it became crystal clear to me that, if I continued to do what I had been doing, my life would be over very, very soon.
There would be no merging with “the one”, no family, no children, no happiness. There would only be a body found on the bathroom floor. My body. One that had suffered a painful and tragic death.

Fortunately, that didn’t happen, Instead, that moment, that epiphany, was the beginning of a journey within.
I was incredibly fortunate to have been guided towards some of the most profound teachers in the field of personal healing, and was extremely lucky to have had the opportunity to study with and learn from them.

There was, however, an even greater contribution to my own healing then all the “official” teachers. That turned out to be the numerous men that appeared in my life. Numerous, because I was always in search of the perfect relationship, the perfect man, “the one”.

Each of the relationships was wonderful for a time, than became a lot less so. However, I am now grateful for each one, as it brought me a little closer to the truth about love, intimacy and my very own heart.

Today, I am fully recovered from my early sexual trauma. I am now happily married to “the one” that’s just right for me (instead of the fairy-tale “perfect one”).

We live in beautiful Santa Barbara, California with our two wonderful children, and I now travel around the world, teaching women with a similar history to mine about how they can heal and create a trust-filled, deeply connected relationship with their man.