A Man's Best Source to Revive His Relationship

Have you ever thought about why many men follow relationship advice from the wrong sources? Be it a marriage or a relationship they want to save or improve, or even if they are still in the process of finding the right woman, they keep taking advice from one-size-fits-all guides written by other men. Well, let me ask you a question:

How about asking a woman for advice? It makes perfect sense, doesn't it? A woman knows what women want. Yes, some men might have some good ideas, but men don't INTUITIVELY know what women want.

The strength and the stability of a relationship mainly depends on the subtle, even unspoken, seemingly little acts, thoughts, feelings, and understanding. You might know by now that a close relationship is not the sum of logical and apparent good deeds. But, a meaningful, close relationship is largely the sum of the unspoken acts and thoughts that create the feeling of closeness and understanding.

Of course, such a relationship depends on both people. Your wife, or girlfriend, also has to strive to understand you, and participate in the relationship. But, if you already know that there is something that needs to be improved or solved, don't wait for her to take action. You should take action as soon as you see the need for it. It might not only save your relationship, but will also send her a subtle, but powerful, message that you care so much.

However, since a man is naturally different than a woman, it is also natural that he doesn't INTUITIVELY understand all the subtleties that are important to a woman. So, this raises the question: Will it do much good if a man follows another man's advice about how to understand and have a close rektionship with a woman? I think you already know the answer. The answer is "No." And it is perfectly normal.

Just one example of the reasons for misguided advice is the assumption that all or most women do things alike. While the apparent actions by those women might be very similar, the motive behind them can be quite different. Because of that assumption, some men tend to project "typical women-like expectations" onto their partners or wives, but those projections might not only be inaccurate, they can actualluy cause harm too. No woman likes to be labeled into stereotypical groups. Women, too, like to be seen as their individual selves -- just as men do. And then, as ironic as it might sound, it's much easier for them to fully give themselves.

While the above assumption might or might not mirror you, it is an example that has more subtle hindering elements burried in it than meets the eye -- just like many other examples do. And that's one more reason to ask for a woman's advice.

Another reason is that your situation is unique. Sure, you can find pieces of truth (fequently taken from different contexts than yours) in pre-written guides because many of those were taken from real-life experiences. But, what could make or break a successful resolution of a relationship issue is the fully personalized attention (or lack thereof) to your own situation -- that is the very thing that you can not get from a pre-written guide.

So, if you have any struggles in your relationship -- either something minor, or something more significant -- the wisest next step is to ...