Self-confidence is sometimes hard to come by unless we are fortunate to be raised by a family that instilled that attribute into our minds and hearts. Yes, it dwells within us innately, but the nurturing and positive guidance from parents and older siblings definitely encourages it.

When we are blessed with self-confidence from an early age, the words we say are usually more encouraging and positive. Our actions are usually more beneficial, thought out, and conscious. We are more aware of who we are inside - strong, empowered people. We are clearer about what we wish to create for our future. We are more assured that the path we take will lead us to our final goal and purpose.

When we are raised in a dysfunctional family, more often than not, the guidelines and boundaries are blurred as to who we are and what we are meant to achieve in this life. We seem to struggle harder in choosing what is best for us. We usually don’t even know how we feel about most things because as children, we are not often given choices or the right to speak our thoughts or feelings.

It has been noted that many of those who are abused, neglected, or denied the innate right to make choices or express thoughts and feelings as children are those who often take their choices to extremes. They step back and shut down, allowing their circumstances to overwhelm them and swallow them into oblivion. Or they become adamantly indignant, choosing to let the imposed injustices fuel their determination to do whatever it takes to rise above it all. Many times, this strong determination allows us to become the highest version of ourselves that truly does dwell within. As we become more consciously aware adults, we refuse to believe that the negative viewpoints others had of us as we grew up.

Self-confidence, whether reflected back to us from others or found buried beneath all the indignities we have overcome, is the one characteristic that all of us as human beings have the right to experience. We are not any less valuable or important than anyone else just because we come from a dysfunctional background. Each of us is given, innately, the empowerment, wisdom, and courage to make the most fulfilling choices we can for our lives. It is, once again, up to every single person to either be devoured by darkness or be sure and strong and confident in Who We Are and What Purpose we fill in being part of this phantasmagorical journey called “Life”.

Author's Bio: 

Lene' has 30+ years of life experience in the Self-Realization field. From becoming a Peer Counselor as a High School Senior to staffing an experiential self-knowledge seminar in Phoenix, called Omega Vector. She has worked as a speaker/facilitator for support groups (Al-Anon, CoDa, Parents Anonymous and Women Who Love Too Much), sharing relationship techniques with others as well as helping them find ways to build higher self-esteem and empowerment.

Lene' wrote a book in 2001, which is now self-published, called Reality in Disguise. It speaks of the strength of the human spirit and is based on her life. She just completed a second book and third book, which will be published soon online as an ebook. They are about the "rememberings"/awarenesses of who she truly is and the lessons she has learned through her journey in this life.

She is a freelance writer, motivational speaker, peer counselor and student of the higher consciousness movement.

Her goal and desire here is to reach out and help or share with anyone that needs a listening ear or a bit of guidance. If the need is just for someone who can empathize and understand where they're coming from, she can do that, too!

Thank you, bless you and may your deepest dreams and most positive goals manifest themselves in your life! You create your universe with your thoughts, so let the manifesting begin!