Life is constantly changing and we too, to keep pace with it change ourselves. We will be adjusting ourselves with surroundings. For example, if winter is approaching, woolen wear will be adapted by us very conveniently. Rain coats and umbrellas will be a part of our clothing during monsoon. Cool cottons are must for summers. Isn’t it? Not only weather, but if we observe ourselves, we will be always adjusting with surroundings.

It is so natural for us to take adjustments with the surroundings, but is it so easy for us to take adjustments with people around us? Can we so smoothly adjust with our spouse, relatives, neighbors, or friends? The answer majorly will be ‘No’, it is not. Let us try to find out the reason for that.

It is quite simple. What is our intent behind taking adjustments with surroundings? It is protection and peace. Isn't it? Same rule applies here. We have to take adjustments for our peace, our protection. Suppose we have designed a machine. It is running perfectly. Now can we put our hand in the running machine thinking that it cannot cut my finger since I have made it, is it possible? Rather it is foolish to think like that. Similarly all prakrutis (nature of a person) are machines. And so we need to learn how to take mechanical adjustments with them. This art of worldly interaction is a non-violent art.

Adjust with every person who fails to adjust with us. If two people are not getting along with each other, the one who wants to escape from vicious cycle of worldly life or just wants peace should adjust. If one keeps tearing a relationship the other must mend. This is the only way where a relationship can be sustained with peace.
If your attempt to adjust fails, try again. The more and more adjustments we take, more and more common sense we develop. Suppose you said something hurtful to your friend. Later on you realized that it was your mistake. Now often we fail to go back, accept and set the things straight. If we could do this, we have taken an adjustment. We have all the right to put our view point forward. But there are no rules that it has to be accepted. We can always express our views keeping in mind its consequences and let it go.

Another way of adjustment is to apply "law of counter pulley". Every person has a particular speed at which his mind thinks on that particular matter. This is called revolutions per minute of mind (RPM). If your RPM are 1000, and the other person’s RPM might be 500. If you try to impose your opinion then he might not be able to grasp it. You need to go to his level and make him understand from his view point. So it will be a meaningful conversation. This is how a counter pulley can be applied.

While dealing with people sometimes we come across the thought that how many times do I only have to take adjustments? Or if I keep on adjusting like this, the other person will take advantage of me. The answer to all this is, no one has the capacity to take advantage of anyone. Whatever is happening is within the law of nature. If the other person had that much power then wouldn't he had taken entire world in his control? So one should be rest assured. Nothing can happen out of the law of nature.

Each living being is independent and is looking for happiness. If a person encounters sorrow from us when he is looking for happiness, he will create enmity, regardless of who gets in his way. Be it spouse, friend, family. So take adjustments for our peace.

Param Pujya DadaBhagwan, an enlightened being has stated, “In each individual’s life, there should indeed be some principles. Nevertheless, one should conduct himself according to circumstances. One who adjusts to circumstances is considered a man. If one knows how to adjust in every situation, then one is able to reach all the way to liberation; that is how tremendous this tool is.”

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Author's Bio: 

Ambalal M. Patel was a civil contractor by profession. In June 1958, spontaneous Self-Realization occurred within Ambalal M. Patel. From this point on, Ambalal became a Gnani Purush, and the Lord that manifest within him became known as Dada Bhagwan. A Gnani Purush is One who has realized the Self and is able help others do the same. Param Pujya Dada Bhagwan used to go from town to town and country-to-country to give satsang (spiritual discourse) and impart the knowledge of the Self, as well as knowledge of harmonious worldly interactions to everyone who came to meet him. This spiritual science, known as Akram Vignan, is the step-less path to Self-realization.