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After The Abusive Relationship - 7 Clues for Knowing You're Doing What Is Right For You

Written by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.

Topic: Abuse and RecoveryPublished September 19, 2008
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Domestic violence survivors often wonder what next? Now, that I’m no longer defined by my role in my “other life,” then what next... Who is this person? What is this person? What ought this person be doing with her life? In some respects this pondering is typical of battered women. However, it’s also true that women at large have similar thoughts when what was once their assumed identity no longer exists.nn“So what’s next?” they ask. When there is something in your life that “the more you have it, the more it has you,” that’s what you need to be doing. That’s what is next! Now some things that carry on in this fashion are good for you and the universe; and others are not. How do you know the difference?nnHere are 7 clues that you’re on track with what’s right for you: 1) When you do this activity, you lose yourself. 2) When you do this activity, time stops. 3) When you do this activity, you are at one with it. 4) When you’re done doing this activity, you long to do more of it. 5) Anywhere from immediately after to 20 minutes after finishing this activity, you feel good, elevated, enhanced, ...outright content! 6) This activity is not fattening, illegal, unethical or immoral. 7) Lastly, the world is a better place by virtue of your doing this activity. If you take a moment or several moments daily to be still within yourself, this that you are to be doing will emerge and sing to you louder than any sound imaginable. You will be drawn to do that which sings in this fashion. And doing so, will be the shortest road to your inner well-being and long-term peace.

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If you want more tips and insights on healing from an abusive relationship, visit http://www.PreventAbusiveRelationships.com and claim your free Survivor Success Tips and eInsights. Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D. helps individuals, families and healthcare professionals recognize, end and heal domestic abuse. © 2008 Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.

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