Am I in an Abusive Relationship?

Be aware! There are people who are committing the most heinous spiritual crimes. They look like regular people. They could very well be your ex-boyfriend, current wife, or psycho girlfriend that you just can’t get rid of. Some people may refer to them as divas, or ladies men, pimps, or players. Or others who are truly intuitive may say that they suffer from severe psychological issues.

I believe that these people are a couple of therapeutic couch sessions away from being full-blown serial killers. Besides, they have much of the same mind-set; they just aren’t crazy enough to take their sick fantasies all the way. So maybe they don’t wet the bed, or torture small cats or dogs. They are spiritually torturing themselves and everyone they come into contact with, because they operate with their weaknesses as opposed to their strengths.

Everything is great in the beginning. Much like a serial killer they will work to lure you in with their charm. They know that you are going to have your defenses up, so they put on an act and make you believe that they are not going to hurt you. Watch out! They are looking to build your trust, and then they are going to attack. These are the people who emotionally exploit you. They intentionally go out of their way to hurt you.

It is safe to say that these people have serious issues. For them, there is a miss match between certain thoughts and emotions, and actions and reactions are not paired up correctly. This produces weird awkward behavior that goes beyond laughing at funerals. These are the people who love drama. They love to make you jealous or upset, because they are looking for the opportunity to have power over you. Their domination does not only have to be physical, it can be emotional, financial, and even spiritual.

So why do these people even exist? I can answer that question with two words, bad programing. Our souls carry programs from successive lifespans. Overtime, we get run-down and start to suffer from normal wear and tear. Traumatic events like abuse, neglect and abandonment create glitches in our system. So we are no longer able to operate effectively. Without treatment, our thoughts are not properly matched with the right emotion. So we mistake things like pain for love.
It is human instinct to look for a partner who we are compatible with. So we instinctively look for partners who have the same bad programing or glitches as we do. Only, for a relationship to work, there has to be a positive and negative spark. If the partner we seek is domineering, we must inherently agree to be submissive. This is the only way the relationship will work.
So what does all this mean? It means that your bad programming will cause you to attract others with bad programming. It means that you are building your relationships based on your weaknesses and not your strengths. In these kinds of relationships, both couples will degrade in character. They will degrade in such a way, where one will become the abuser and the other the victim. The abuser and the victim will have this sick attraction to pain and suffering, because that is the only thing that generates the spark needed for the relationship to survive. This process will continue until there is a powerful climax, where one or both parties end up dead. They can be dead emotionally, spiritually, or physically.

If you are wondering why you keep going back to someone who you know is abusive? It is because you have yet to master your weaknesses. If you find that you are constantly attracted to people who hurt you, mistreat you, or don’t respect you. You can solve these problems by changing your coding. You can reprogram your life, fix your glitches and have positive and loving relationships. All you have to do is change yourself from the inside out.